Phenomenal Women

Posted on: June 21, 2017

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
– Maya Angelou

{“Phenomenal woman”  Angelou speaks as a self-confident woman, she wants to show the world what makes her beautiful and she expresses it in a various ways….. A phenomenal woman can be any shape or size. Creed, religion, age, sexual orientation, the family she was born into, or the colour of her skin do not matter. She is strong yet weak; she struggles with her own identity from time to time, but she understands that is all part of who she is}. 

The poem that I shared with you above is by the famous Maya Angelou. Her words speak so many truths and volumes. She’s a true inspiration to us all in more ways than one. She too, endured her own struggles, but she prevailed and persevered. I, thank her for her words, her works and being the woman that she was and stood for.  She continues to be a powerful voice to many even though she is no longer with us.

Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching, trying to work through my feelings of uncertainty and a whirl of emotions. I’d like to consider myself a strong, independent, confident woman, but at times I can’t say that I am those things. Have you ever felt this way? Or dealt with feelings like these? If so, how did you cope or deal with what you were feeling?  I’m human, and I’m sure some if not all of you all can relate. I’ve read a lot of books that have uplifted my spirits and have helped me get me back to my center. I’m blessed to have people in my life, who have helped me through my struggles. Their advice and words of encouragement have enlightened and strengthened my spirit. I’m grateful and thankful for them. They have helped me through some of the hardest times in life in my life. Just to warn you, this may be a long post, but it’s definitely worth the read.

Recently, I watched a video and read an article on someone who I’ve admired. Her inspirational and powerful life story spoke to me in a way, that brought me to tears.  I wanted to take this time to write and share this with you. In the beginning of 2017, I spoke about being more open with you. I’m exploring my openness with you all today. Little by little you will learn more about me and who I am over time.

Today, I’d like to talk to you about a woman who has a powerful and positive voice. Someone who is not only inspirational but empowering.  She has endured much pain and hardship throughout her life. Which many of us can relate to in some way shape or form. Her story is heartbreaking, uplifting and powerful. She’s living the dream and she’s worked hard to get to where she is now. She is living proof, through adversity you can rise above it all. You can live the life you want and that hard work truly pays off. This remarkable women is : Oprah Winfrey. Her name is well known and loved by many, but do you know her life story?  Today, I’d like to remind us all of our inner phenomenal Wo(man). While also touching upon Oprah Winfrey’s life, her story and how she too is a phenomenal woman.

Many of us have endured and faced some challenges and obstacles in our lives. Some more so than others. I have been through some of the darkest times in my life. I’ve experienced pain and hurt in the worst ways possible. I know I’m speaking around my words and not being specific about my experiences. But that’s for another post, for another day and time. What I will say is, my struggles have taught me a lot about myself. It gave me new perspective on life— what I wanted out of life and what kind of life I wanted to live. I’ve become a stronger and wiser woman since then. I also know that my past doesn’t dictate my future and who I am now. Life teaches us a lot of lessons even at the worst times in our lives. What we need to remember is that we alone hold the key to our future. Sometimes, I think we forget that we create our own life. However big or small or grand or simple, it’s all in our hands.  Oprah endured physical and emotion abuse, failures and setbacks and through it all she rose above it. She is living proof that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

I mentioned earlier that I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching…. Well, to be completely honest, I’ve been feeling well for lack of better words: insecure, unhappy and uninspired. Certain things have contributed to these feelings, and at times it’s been hard to work through them.  During these time, my faith even my heart has been tested. Sometimes, during times of struggles, not only is it challenge but a trying time. What I have learned is that it’s gonna be okay and at times life will send us messages that will test us. But these are the times where we truly see how strong we are as people. At least, that’s how I see it as.  I’m human and many of us will experience some bumps in the road from time to time. It’s never the greatest but that’s life. I know that I’m not alone, we all go through our share of ups and downs, it’s all part of the journey. I’ve learned that this too shall pass. I know these feeling won’t last forever. I’m grateful to God, and I know he is guiding me each and everyday. I keep on reminding myself of my purpose while trying to stay positive. Even though I’ve been feeling this way, I know who I am and what I’m all about. With constant help from my support system around me, my spirits have been lifted. In addition to that, all of you have brought happiness into my life.  It’s another reason for me to feel and be empowered, enlightened and inspired. Everything in life is a process, and we all work through it all in our own ways. This is all in the moment, and I know this is all temporary. It’s just another reason to remind us all, myself included that we are all phenomenal. No matter what anyone says or tells us, we’re all remarkable and beautiful both inside and out. This is a struggle for most of us. I too, struggle with this, but it’s a good daily reminder that we should always remember.

 

Here are some of the ways I’ve learned to cope and deal with what’s been troubling me. Maybe these can be useful for you if you ever experience these unsettling feelings.

  • Meditation
  • Reading books that will uplift your spirt, mind, and soul
  • Surround yourself with positive minded people
  • Yoga
  • Daily exercise
  • Screaming and letting it all out and letting it go
  • Speaking with your family, friends, peers the ones you trust , those who are in your circle. Talking and communicating is very therapeutic, a good for the soul
  • Singing, is actually a great form of release as well. {Fun fact, I’ve been singing since I was 5 year old}. Stay tuned, maybe I’ll give you a little preview one of these days
  • Being completely honest with yourself
  • Stay true and authentic always
  • Choose an uplifting and empowering affirmation/mantra something that will not only inspire you but others and repeat it. Make it a daily reminder for yourself and believe it. Know you are worth it
  • It may be easier said than done but even through it all continue to remain positive and optimistic
  • Know that this to shall pass and what you’re feeling is only temporary
  • Continue to smile, a smile can go a long way. Who knows, your smile can brighten someone else’s day

We all can rise above the challenges we face and live the life we want. At the age of 32, Oprah became the first African American on national Television in America and the youngest millionaire. How did she do this? She remained determined, worked hard and instead of staying she couldn’t she said she can, and so can you!  I just turned 32, I’m not a millionaire, but I have a million reasons to be happy, thankful and grateful! I’m so grateful for all of life’s blessings, and I know my work is far from being done. I have so much to look forward to. I’m not perfect but I’m okay with that. I’m living life how I want each and every day. I have many more dreams and goals I’d like to accomplish and I’m just getting started. I’m building my own story and having faith in the journey that lies ahead.  I’m a work in progress as we all are.

On a more positive note, after writing and sharing this all with you, and working through what’s been troubling me; I can honestly say that I’m in a better space. No one said life would ever be easy, even Oprah has said this because she’s gone through her share. Nothing ever happens overnight, but I’m trusting and believing that it’ll all work itself out in the long run. So, as I continue to tell myself not to let certain things get me down you shouldn’t either. We are all phenomenal, amazing human beings. We just have to remember to listen to that voice inside and continue to remind ourselves this from time to time.   

Oprah Winfrey Inspirational Life Story… Watch the video and listen to Oprah’s powerful story. Her life will amaze you and inspire you in more ways than one.

 

 

Here’s Oprah’s Tearful Speech at Power of Women : A powerful speech that will uplift you but may bring you to tears so keep a box of kleenex close by.

In life, we’ll face many challenges, go through struggles and jump through many hurdles some of which we may not understand or want. We just need to realize and know that its only temporary. We can work through it and overcome it. Sometimes we need daily reminders to let us all know, it’s gonna be ok, and that we’re doing a great job. No matter what anyone tells us, we are amazing in our own ways. We need to remember, we all have the power and will to live the life we want. We need to all believe in our true power, we need to believe that we are worth it. When we start to believe that, we can truly become what we want to be and what we are meant to be. This is something I will continue to tell myself and so should you.

 

I hope you all were able to take something from this post. I hope it encourages you to go out there and live out your dreams. My hope for this post is to continue to uplift, inspire and empower you all. I feel more at ease and my spirit is lifted. I know that everything takes time and it’s a process, but it’ll all be worth it in the end. Build your own story, begin your journey, enjoy it, respect it and believe in it. I promise you, it will all be worth it in the end.

We are all phenomenal Wo(man), we need to always remember this, celebrate it and believe it!

What is uplifting and empowering to you? 

As alway, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!


Coach Shanita

Posted on: July 18, 2016

“ Behind Every Successful Woman is a tribe of other successful women who have her back.” 

GET CLEAR

GET POWERFUL

GO. 

If you know me by now, I’m all about supporting one another and having each others back. I believe that by supporting one another, we can inspire, motivate, empower, also learn from one another. For me, I’m about exploring all forms of creative outlets and how it can help in ones career goals. I’m extremely grateful and proud to live in a city that supports and celebrates ones passions, a city that truly is a place where one can make dreams happen. I love the entrepreneurial spirit that lives in all of us and in a city like New York. How we can all band together, embrace our strengths and empower one another as we grow in life and in business.

I love learning about new businesses and not only learning about them but supporting them as well. Recently, I had the pleasure of learning about one of my girlfriends new and growing business. She recently transitioned from working in the school system to becoming a life coach. While, she enjoyed enriching the minds of students everyday, she thought it was time to shift gears. She wanted to help and guide those in need and learn a different trade. Thus, began her journey on her path in becoming Coach Shanita. While she isn’t your traditional therapist, she is referred to as a coach. One to help you through those difficult times in life, whether its in your career, personal relationship, whatever the case is, her techniques shouldn’t be confused as therapeutic but more holistic and in a coaching manner so to speak.

One night after catching up with my girl Shanita, she started telling me about her new Coaching business. Not to be confused as a therapist, but a life coach. Her methods help you to look from within and channel in on what really may be troubling you, or even any obstacles you may be facing. She helps you deal with your frustrations, self-doubt or angst of not being able to move forward. It may sound like a therapist, but she’s your Life Coach. Helping you build a better you and face whatever your going thru head on. Allowing you to clear your head, seek the power that lies within you. Her holistic and personal methods are not only inspiring, they are empowering.


COACH SHANITA, WHAT  SHE’S ALL ABOUT: 

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Coaching is a powerful way for you to get you the tools and support you need to remove obstacles that are in the way of your goals around: 

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HOW DOES IT WORK: 

STEP 1:  Contact me!


Send
 any of your questions via email, see if coaching is right for you, and set up a time for free coaching session.

STEP 2:  Get coached!
Free 30-minute
Sample Coaching Call


E
xperience coaching and see firsthand how this transformative course of action can help you move from where you are currently to where you want to be. 

STEP 3:  Dare to discover!
Free Discovery Session Call
or Video Chat, 45 minutes

I will send a questionnaire in advance to get a deeper sense of you, get clear about your future goals, and get focused on the steps that will lead to your success. We will share expectations and discuss which packages seem right for you as we co-create a powerful coaching relationship.

* I offer in-person Discovery Sessions to those in parts of New York City and Long Island, NY.

STEP 4:  Powerful coaching begins!

By employing my 5 A’s: Authenticity, Awareness, Action, Accountability, and Alignment, we will GET CLEAR on your vision, GET POWERFUL with goal-setting, and GO take action!

Shanita’s Five A’s

  • Authenticity
  • AHA! Awareness!
  • Action
  • Accountability 
  • Alignment


Authenticity

In our coaching partnership, I hold a safe space for us to explore the real you so your authentic self can gain confidence and powerfully emerge.

AHA! Awareness!

I ask powerful questions that spark mind-blowing “Aha” moments and lead you to deeper awareness of your needs, values, and vision.

Action

Together, we design manageable action steps that will move you closer to your desired outcomes.

Accountability 

acknowledge your efforts, root for you 100% of the way, and communicate on a weekly basis to see how you are doing with your goals—What’s working? What’s not working? What needs to shift?

Alignment

My coaching packages are designed to get you aligned with your creativity and core values to ultimately become unstoppable


My 30 minute Session: 

She gave me an overview of what she does and how her coaching methods have helped the clients she’s currently working with. Now, in order for her to best tell me about her work, she’s asked if she could try a 30 minute session with me over the phone.  So, I was delighted to hear more about Coach Shanita and her methods so we began our session.  At the time, I had been dealing with some personal conflicts in my life, and thru her coaching methods, Shanita helped me work through those underlying feelings I was having. She coached me thru it, and made me face it head on. She had me stand up and face all my fears and doubts, and confront it.  In that 30 minutes I felt a huge weight off my shoulders. I felt strong, empowered and unbothered by what had been effecting me. We went over my 30 minutes slightly, but she helped me find my inner strength and be at peace with it all. Although, her methods are about personal growth and clearing you from self-doubt its something we ourselves have to work

If you or anyone you know is looking for a coach or just to seeking advice in working through anything your going thru contact her today. You have nothing to lose, your first 30 minute session with her is FREE. What’s stopping you, she’s not only a great friend, she’s is amazing at what she does. Schedule a time to speak with her today, and feel empowered and inspired after just your first session.

For more information go to: coachshanita.com.

How have you been empowered today?

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