SFB: Faith+ Positivity+ The Little Things in Life

Posted on: September 10, 2018

 

 

Life can throw us a lot of curve balls and we all continue to fight battles each and every single day. For some of us, this can deter us from moving forward, where we feel less  motivated in doing just about everything. My advice to you all and I’ve always continued to say this—–NEVER GIVE UP. Trust me I know it is easier said than done, trust me I know this all too well and I get it. Sometimes we think simple fixes can make things better, but we mustn’t look for material things or other things to make things better. It’s the little things in life that should help us keep moving forward. It’s starts with this and for some of us we underestimate how powerful this can help us. We all experience various life challenges and through these battles and difficulties we must keep our faith, and believe in the power of prayer.  I know all too well, that with all of life challenges that we go through, it’s so easy to lose our faith and hope. Sometimes our faith comes in waves because we go through all these ups and downs in life which makes us wonder and question our faith and even God. We all want the answers, we all want immediate results. But unfortunately, life doesn’t work out that way. But that doesn’t mean that things can’t happen, but not as immediate as we would like or hope.

 

What we must always remember, it’s all about timing and in God’s time. God hasn’t forgotten us, he is with us and he hears our prayers and thoughts, we must never forget that.  I also hold God and my faith as the number one driving force in my life that has kept me going in all aspects of my life.  In addition to the support of my love, family and friends. They have been the people in my life, the reason why I’m motivated to keep going. Like all of us, I am human, and I can be the first to admit that I have lost my faith at times. But without fail God has shown me in more ways than one that he is with me. I have lived by this scripture from 2 Corinthians 5:7 —-  I will walk by faith even when I cannot see…. I truly believe there are signs everywhere and he is with us, guiding us and showing us even when we can’t see it he is. We must remember that. What I will leave you with is,  remain strong even when it’s tough. Stay positive, even when there are things leading you to think or act otherwise. Pray for peace, pray for hope, protection to keep that positivity and good energy and vibes flowing in your life. Be kind always. Spread love in everything you do. Lastly, keep pushing, keep going. Never lose hope, never give up and never stop believing.

 

Here are some of my words, psalms and bible scriptures that have continued to stay with me and help me throughout my life:

I will walk by faith, even when I cannot see… 2 Corinthians 5:7

Psalms 23

Psalms 91 for Protection

Psalms 37:4

Corinthians 13-4

Psalms 46:5

Proverbs 3:1-12

Luke 11:1-54

Whatever you believe in, keep that and hold onto to that. It will help you during all of life challenges. Stay inspired, empowered, motivated and always keep the faith. Stay positive!

 

 

 

 

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Remember to always have faith, stay strong, keep the positive vibes flowing, never give, never lose hope and never ever stop believing.

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!


Practicing Gratitude in Style

Posted on: August 8, 2018

Start and end each day with a grateful, loving heart. Begin your days with positive thoughts. When you do, trust and believe all that good energy and good vibes that come your way. In my opinion, remaining calm and positive in any given situation, is the way we all should live life. It’s definitely easier said than done. But trying is half the battle, but we must learn to shake off the bad and seek the good. When you shift your negative thoughts, and remain positive in any given situation, you will see a shift in your mindset and overall perspective of life. Trust, believe and always have faith.  Practice gratitude daily and you will increase your energetic vibrational frequency. Focus on the positive, even when some days are harder than most. Set the tone, not just for your days but as a whole. Stand strong and always #hustleandheart. Gratitude is a powerful process of shifting your energy and bringing more of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have and you will attract more good things.  We’re all fighting battles that many of us don’t know about–so be kind, be grateful always, and above all never lose faith and hope. No matter what we all are facing, we still must be grateful and thankful for the blessings of each and everyday. Keep the good vibes flowing!

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No Beauty Shines brighter than that of a Good Heart

Posted on: March 29, 2018

“A woman with a voice, is by definition a strong woman.” 

Take delight in the Lord and he shall give you the desires of your Heart. Psalm 37:4

 

I hope everyone is having a great week so far. This post I’m sharing today is about finding strength, trusting it, reflection and having a good heart. In life, we all go through things that many of us can’t explain or don’t even understand. Sometimes, things happen in our lives, that is so unexpected, heartbreaking and life changing that it effects us in so many different ways. I, myself have been going through a very painful time in my life. Something so painful I wouldn’t wish this kind of pain on anyone. They say that pain changes people. There are two types of pains, one that hurts you and the other that changes you. It can make a person trust less, overthink more and sometimes even shut people out. Pain can also be a motivator for finding strength.

During this time of reflection, heartache, soul searching and guidance through my faith. I’ve seen myself struggle through the pain. I see that pain has changed me in a way where I was at a point where I’ve doubted others and myself. I’ve seen how my pain has hurt me to the core. I’ve even been at a point where I’ve completely shut people out. Not that it was on purpose, not that I didn’t or haven’t valued them, their care or advice. But I couldn’t bare to have my pain and hurt drown in them too. When one experiences pain of this nature, the only natural and human reaction is to feel alone. Leaving you with much doubt –where you begin to question every little thing.

Please know this,  TRUST and BELIEVE if you’re going through any kind of pain or hurt you’re not alone. Even though it feels like you are, you aren’t. I tell myself this everyday, because I still struggle with this from time to time. I also know that it’s easier said than done. What I have learned is that we can’t never allow the pain or hurt to let us lose ourselves in the process. Repeat after me, I matter, I am important and I am enough. These are things I say to myself everyday, although it can be a struggle I still manage to say, believe and repeat it. But hey, trying is half the battle. Sure, I have my moments of sadness, and it’s perfectly normal. Let it out, it’s healthy. We all need a good cry here and there. If we don’t let it out, one of these days you may just explode with an overflow of emotions. But little by little, let it out. Let yourself feel through the pain and hurt. This isn’t something you can prepare yourself for, it’s also isn’t something you can just wake up the next day and just say ok I’m over it. It’s a process, an ebb and flow of ups and downs. Everyday is different. Some days will be good and some days will not be and that’s perfectly fine.

Reflection and Coping….

I reflect, I grieve and I have my ways of coping through it all. We all find ways to deal and cope with things.  I’ve truly appreciated my small inner circle and family for their support, guidance and love during this time. You find that during these times of struggle, you find out whose truly in your corner and by your side.  As far as my time, I try and use my time in a productive way. Whether its keeping myself occupied with work, family, friends or other activities that I enjoy. For instance, I have a passion and love for singing, I have since gotten back into singing, joined a choir and have done a few open mic nights. I found that it has been a way of release and a means to keep my mind off of the pain for the moment in time. I’ve also had the honor and pleasure to guest speak at various business events. Although I’m going through this very painful and tough time in my life, I’d still like to be an advocate and use my voice as a means for positive change and for me its a way to help others and give back, which is my mission and life’s purpose. It truly warms my heart to be able to inspire and empower men and women through this platform. To provide a sense of hope, encouragement and positivity through the lenses of style, beauty, lifestyle as well as real life situations. I hope that my voice, experiences, businesses and words of wisdom provide a sense comfort and strength to all. As well as be a means for positive change not just for ourselves but as a whole.

Let your coping mechanisms be positive and constructive. Don’t let them be ways where it will lead you further down the rabbit whole. If you need to, seek advice from family, your inner circle or even professional help, do so.  Releasing the pain and hurt helps, even if it’s only in the moment it’s conducive to the process. If you can write about it, writing can be very cathartic and helpful too. Let it all out, even if you find yourself getting emotional, LET IT OUT. And remember this is your pain, you’re the one going through this. No matter what advice or what anyone says to you, although the intentions may be for your benefit, this is your process. You handle and you go through the motions how you see fit for yourself. Also, remember to love yourself through it all. Be kind, be gentle to yourself. You’re going through a lot, so don’t be too hard on yourself especially if your trying. Love yourself first and foremost. Take care of you.

Above all, trust and believe that you have the strength, it’s within you.  That voice inside you, that is your inner strength, listen to it. Let it guide and help you through the pain. Sometimes in life, we can’t explain why things happen the way they do. No matter how painful it may be. I can confidently say that I know I’m a good woman, with a good heart and only the purest intentions. But what I have also learned that having a good heart can also cause a tremendous amount of pain and hurt. One thing that I know for sure, I may be going through a tough time now. BUT, this will never stop me from being the woman that I am. No matter how much love and care you have in your heart and even with your good intentions, sometimes not everyone is equipped to handle it, or even grow with you. That’s the tough part, but hey not everyone has the capacity to love the way you love, realize it or see the good, even if it’s starring them right in the face. Sometimes you may be too much goodness and heart that others don’t have the capacity to hold on to it, cherish it and know how to take care of it. I’m content in knowing not to expect a lot in return. But also knowing what I deserve. Even though I know that what I have already matters and I can see the growth potential in all aspects. Not to say you shouldn’t have any expectation but having less expectations saves you from an immense amount of pain. If that makes any sense at all.

Food for thought….

This is what I do know. Here’s the thing about people with good hearts. They give you excuses when you don’t explain yourself. They accept apologies you don’t give. They see the best in you when you don’t need them to. At your worst, they lift you up, even if it means putting their priorities aside. The word “busy” does not exist in their dictionary or vocabulary. They make time, even when you don’t. And you wonder why they’re the most sensitive people. You wonder why they’re the most caring people. You wonder why their existence is not so essential to your well-being. It’s because they don’t make you work hard for the attention they give you. They accept the love they think they’ve earned and you accepted the love you think you’re entitled to. Let me tell you something. Fear the day when a good heart gives up on you. Our skies don’t become grey out of no where. Our sunshine does not allow the darkness to take over for no reason. A heart does not turn cold unless it’s been treated with coldness for awhile. That’s truth and honesty in a nutshell. That’s not bitterness, that true, honest words from someone with a good heart. We don’t just love, we love hard, unconditionally, wholeheartedly and immensely. Find the strength within you to know, no matter what pain can do to you never lose sight of your good heart and pure intentions. Never let pain make you bitter. Turn pain into strength. The road of pain and hurt isn’t easy by no means. Always remember your good heart, you’re a good person and you have the power to be strong, it’s always been inside of you. Never lose sight of your strength and your good heart.

Breathe, and let it go….

Life throws us curve balls, things we can’t explain. They are either there to test us or to strengthen us or even both. I’ve been told that God gives his strongest souls the most challenging feats in life because he knows they can handle it and they will prevail. This hasn’t been easy by no means. But with the grace of God and my faith, I still haven’t lost hope. Turn to your faith and let that be your strength and let that empower you through this time.

Breathe, and let it go. If it’s meant to be it will find it’s way. I firmly believe that. Maybe we’re all experiencing some form of pain for a reason. Sometimes we have to struggle a little to find the deeper meaning behind the message. If you believe in something so much, then keep your faith and find strength through it. When there’s a will there’s a way.  If you’re going through any pain or hurt, remember you’re not alone. I’m here for you. It’s never easy, I’m still going through it. We can remind ourselves of our strengths, our faith and our good hearts. Through it all, we can empower ourselves to find hope, light and positivity through our time of struggle.

 

Remember to never lose faith, never lose hope, never stop believing and never give up! You’re a good soul, a dope soul with a good and pure heart of gold. Never forget that!

 

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting the journey!


Positivity, Confidence, Strength and Self Improvement

Posted on: August 30, 2017

 

It’s a new day, new week! In this post, as I’ve always been authentic, honest and open to you all, this post will give you more insight on me and what I’ve been struggling through lately. I also want to mention, that at this point in my life, I believe that in this current state of being, I’m trying to transform myself into a better person overall. Not to say that I’m not a good person now, I know and believe I am. But we all can find ways to improve in ourselves as a whole.  I believe that with transformation, change for the better is a good thing. It may be scary and challenging in the moment. But change within oneself is good, and its good for the soul as well. I believe it can strengthen your mind, body and soul.

 

In regards to my blog, I still want to and plan to inspire, empower, encourage, and enlighten you through all facets of life.  I’ll continue to empower you while also giving you more insight on my life and me, but ultimately my goal is to strengthen myself, and I hope to continue to do the same for you all as well through this process. I firmly believe in this, while maintaining a positive outlook on life accompanied with a can do attitude, anything is possible. I truly believe that. In doing so, I’d also like to take you on this journey of mine of self improvement.  While I continue to do all those things, I will continue to learn, grow and evolve throughout the process. For me this is a time for reflection, healing, renewing and finding myself again in more ways that I ever thought possible. My goal is to become a better version of myself while continuing to meet my goals and aspirations. I encourage each and every one of you to do so. It can be scary but remember, you are trying, and that’s the first step. Never stop trying to be a better version of yourself, it can only help you in the long run.

What I’m about to tell you may shock many people, but I’m being even more open with you and myself.  I’m bearing myself to the core. Which at times as been a challenge for me. The first step is admitting it, grasping it and willing to change for the better. Finding perspective, and a better sense of self to ultimately feel renewed as a whole.

In the last couple of months, I lost a sense of myself. I started to lose my strength, faith and confidence due to certain things in my life. No one is to blame but myself for allowing myself to feed into insecurities that we all face. For me, I believe myself to be a pretty strong, confident woman, but sometimes I to can falter. Which is what has happened.  But I feel that I’ve found a sense of maturity and humility in admitting that to myself and to you all.  I started to doubt myself and I allowed my insecurities to overcome me. I’m human, I’m not perfect, but this has to be the lowest point in my life right now.  In turn, I didn’t like what I saw in myself,  I knew I needed to make a change. During this time, I’ve been able to reflect and see all these things.  It’s given me time to reevaluate, reflect on everything that transpired in the last couple of months.  Today, I looked at myself in the mirror and I saw ME. I started to recite these affirmations to myself:

I am Bold

I am Beautiful

I am Brave

I am Confident

I am Courageous

I am Capable

I am Strong

I am Enough and I will Never Give Up

I have the strength, to renew myself and my faith to become a better version of ME

I am by no means perfect, I am a work in progress. We all are, every day is a chance to start again, and start anew. Everyday I find myself getting stronger. I believe that tough times and struggles can make you a stronger person. I just continue to believe, remain hopeful and keep my faith that it will all get better soon.

As I recited that to myself, I felt myself becoming stronger. I know this won’t happen overnight, but it’s a start, it’s a process. But I believe in it and I have faith in it. I believe and can see a change in me. I feel that this will be a good thing overall. It will in turn strengthen not only myself but other aspects in my life as well. I want to encourage and inspire you all to do this for yourself. Even when we may think we don’t need to improve, we all can find areas for improvement. In the long run, self improvements can be helpful in many ways. It’s good for all of us. Believe that, and believe in yourself. This has been the hardest post to write, but it’s real, it’s honest and true. I truly believe we are all a work in progress, but I truly believe we all can benefit from this. I know in myself, that it’s been beneficial for me to see myself and see my confidence and strength come back. Join the journey with me, and take time for yourself as well. Remember, self love is important too. See what you find, and how it can help you as a whole and in your life.

I’m believing in the process. With hope and my strong faith I will trust the journey and I know I’m committed to change. As well as find that renewed strength and confidence in myself as I did before. This post is by no means to boast, or whatsoever. It’s a means to share a little more about myself, motivating myself and all of you at the same time. To provide some positive affirmations that have been helpful for me and that can be useful to you too. Remember to always  know your worth, your purpose and true potential.

Always remember to stay positive and optimistic. Don’t be too hard yourself, because at the end of the day your trying your very best. I believe that I am trying my best and I’ll continue to work very hard at it and continue to push through. It takes a lot of courage to stay strong and push through during tough times, but in the end I know I’m becoming a stronger person daily, and I believe and I have faith everything will work out. I believe in you all too!

I hope you found this post helpful in some way. If ever you feel lost, or doubt yourself look deep down inside.  Reflect and remember we are all human, we aren’t perfect, we all have our flaws. But we can find ways to make improvements for the better. What I’ve also found for me that has been helpful is: reading, staying close to my faith, singing, listening to music, putting my energy into my businesses, working out, taking walks and writing have been very therapeutic and beneficial.

What are ways that have helped you pick yourself up? Please do share, I love hearing from you all. I truly believe when we share ideas and thoughts we in turn can help one another become a better version of ourselves.

Have an amazing week loves! Continue to stay motivated, inspired and empowered. Much love and blessings to you all.

As always, thanks for reading, following along and joining the journey!

 


SFB Motivational Mondays: Quotes, Mantras and Songs for Inspiration, motivation and more.

Posted on: August 15, 2017

Hi Loves!

Happy Monday! Can you believe it’s August already??!! How did that happen, the months are just flying by. I know it’s been some time since you last heard from me. I took some time for myself, to re-group, re-center and re-evaluate a few things for the blog and just with myself. I can’t stress to you all enough how important self-care is, I’ll be talking about self-care in a separate post. But it’s important to always take care of yourself in all facets. Whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally, whatever the case is, do you and be good to yourself. Being good to yourself and give yourself and your body the love and care it needs. It’s not only important but it good for your overall health and of course your soul as well. Just something to think about.

 

Anyway, here are a few quotes, mantras and songs that keep me going throughout my days. If ever your feeling down, lost, undetermined, unfocused, unmotivated find meaningful quotes, music or even mantras that will help you through your days. Working out can be a great source of release as well. Great stress reliever as well as a mind clearer. Plus, it gets those endorphins going and those happy, positive vibe radiate out of you. This can also do wonders for you as well. A breath of fresh air and getting outside is a great thing to do for yourself. It clears the mind, and helps you re-center your thoughts.

These quotes, mantras and songs have done wonders for me and I hope they can do the same for you. They help me get through those tough days, challenges and any bumps I may be facing at the time. They help me stay positive, keep focus on what’s important, motivate me, inspire and keep me staying determined always. For me, quotes, music and certain mantras have helped me get through a lot of my darker times and moments in my life. I also lean on the support of my amazing, loving husband, family and friends. Having a strong support system is also crucial to help you get through those tough times. But know you are never alone, and we all go through it in our lives. Just remember we will all get through any challenges, obstacles, struggles, bumps, hurdles that life throws at us. Another way to help you get you thru your days is always staying positive and optimistic. I can’t stress this enough. When you shift your mindset, and just give out and spread only positive thoughts and vibes it can do wonders on your overall attitude on life and any challenges you may be facing. I know this isn’t always easy at times, we are human and we can falter sometimes and have moments of doubt and uncertainty within ourselves. But we must try and create and believe in ourselves and the positive energy we possess. We all have it in us, we just need to harness it, spread it and believe in it. Anything is possible, just remember that.

Lastly, another great way to stay positive and help you through anything is the power of prayer. Turning to God or your choice of worship can help keep the momentum and positivity going for yourself. Don’t underestimate the power of prayer, God is always listening and watching. He will always send a sign and listen to our prayers. God is good, I truly believe that.

Here are my favorite quotes, mantras and songs that keep me going: 

 

I hope this help you all. Remember you are not alone. We can all share and learn from one another. Please share your ways to keep yourself motivated, inspired, empowered and determined. I love hearing from you all and I love how we can inspire and empower one another.

As always thanks for reading, following along and supporting the journey!