Date Night

Posted on: July 12, 2017

This post is long overdue, I’ve been wanting to share this with you all for quite sometime now. It’s something that is so obvious and simple but it’s so important in any relationship- date night! No matter if you just started a new relationship, have been together for many years, married, married with kids, date night is an essential part in any romantic relationship. In any relationship, whether it’s with family or friends, you have to nurture it, cherish it and this will help the relationship grow. Time is a very important thing, especially quality time, listening, talking and enjoying life — all it has to offer together. Let’s face it, I know we can all admit that at times, it’s easy for us to get caught up in our daily lives, and dates become few and far between-something you too often say, it’ll happen when you have time, or money. Life can be challenging and demanding at times especially if you and your partner have jobs that require more time than the norm or if you’re full time parents. Now I’m not saying your dates have to be over the top or super extravagant  (although a little thought to the evenings or even daytime outing would be nice) but it’s something that should be incorporated into your relationship

My husband and I started having date night back when we started dating almost 9 years ago. It’s something we started that helped strengthened the bond between us. But I have to be honest, due to our demanding schedules it’s been hard lately to keep up the tradition. Although, Friday’s are designated for Date night, it hasn’t been as frequent as we would like. But I’m hoping we can continue doing date night again very soon! At this point, one of us need to just drop everything and say, let’s go out and enjoying the day or evening and our time. Sometimes, maybe a little spur of the moment and impromptu outing might be something you and your partner need to break the ice.

 A Here are reason’s why date night is important:

Date nights are what keep a relationship strong and lasting. Why? During that time, you both can reconnect, engage with one another without being distracted by a phone call, a work email, or even social media. It breaks up the monotony— we can all love our jobs, lifestyles, family and friends but it’s humanly possible to get stuck in a rut. It’s normal, but that’s why date nights are essential. Making time for you and your partner can spice things up in more ways than you think. Sometimes we can get caught up with our crazy daily lives that we forget our partners are there as a support system, to helps through our struggles and see the bigger picture. Carving out time for date night is the perfect solution and way to communicate on another level, instead of talking about the usual day to day. Trust me, your not alone we all fall victim to this from time to time. But it’s up to us to make more of an effort and set aside the time to rekindle, reconnect, relax and enjoy the time together. Cherish it, because this will continue to strengthen the bond you two share.

Get to know your partner on a deeper level–  I know what your thinking,  ” I thought I knew everything there is to know about you…”  Whether you’ve been married for 25 years or have been in a long term relationship with your partner you may think there isn’t much more you need to know or learn about one another. I’ll tell you this, my husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now and dating for almost 9 years and we’ve changed a bit over the years. Not in a bad way, but we’ve grown a lot since we first met and dated, especially in our marriage. No matter what relationship your in and no matter for how long, remember this, a relationship is a partnership. In a partnership, we have to remember we always want to do better and be better. We all want to grow and evolve what’s better than growing not just as individuals but in your marriage/relationship as well. Life always has some kind of lesson for us to learn, the same rules apply in a marriage. So whether you both curl up together by the fire at home or even over a dinner made together at home or out take the time to connect and communicate on a deeper level. It will not only make you grow as individuals but as a couple too. Try it, and see the strength of your bond grow closer.

An added plus, another reason to get all dressed up!!

Also studies have shown that couples who had a new baby but had a weekly date night were half as likely for their marriage quality to decline. Couples who had ‘couples time’ weekly, were more likely to have higher quality relationships and lower divorce rates than those who didn’t. They found that weekly date nights increase communication about important things and remove everyday distractions. Date nights increase novelty so that couples don’t take one another for granted and you both have a chance to do fun, stimulating activities. Having a date night helps spouses to reclaim both their individual identity and their identity as a couple.  Much of the time they are too busy being a daughter, son, boss, worker, mom, dad and friend to remember to focus on who they want to be as people and as a couple.

If you’re constantly on the go with your demanding schedule and job you and your partner are well over due for a date night. For most of us who are in the hustle and bustle,  on the daily grind and going 110% if not more always, then date night is the perfect way to force you to relax and unwind.  What better way then to do it with someone you love and feel 100% comfortable with. When you aren’t distracted the stresses of your job and what have you, having that time away can put you in a refreshed and calm state. So whatever was stressing you before won’t be so hard to tackle, because you took time to hit the refresh, reset  and regroup button and you talked about it together. You both came together to make the time for some good old quality time and R&R with one another. Something we all need from time to time. Try it and see how you handle what life is handing to you with a renewed sense of calmness and mindset. We all need this time, so cherish it, be mindful of it, and use it wisely.

Lastly, you remember your Why… This is so very true for all relationships.  You think, why did we begin this crazy ride through the journey of life together! What brought us here? There’s nothing more refreshing or comforting than to have those moments thinking  “We’re in this together.” To remind you and your partner why you both are working so hard to keep this relationship together, continue to be a solid team, why it’s so important to you both and why you want to continue this together. This couldn’t be more true, especially if your going through a tough time or working through something- moments like these will only provide a sense of clarity and put you at ease. Something you can’t and won’t be able to get if you’re going through it alone or just going through the motions. Now I’m not saying that the other moments you and your partner share aren’t significant.  But, what I am saying is that taking the time and making the effort will not only strengthen your relationship, it will help you both grow even closer as a stronger unified couple not only in life but in marriage. After all, as the saying goes– for better or for worse, in sickness and in health and for as long as you both shall live. 

Life will always have some kind of lesson or test that will challenge you and your partner. It is those test that will strengthen you not only as individuals but as a couple in the long run.

 

These are just my own thoughts and what has worked for my husband and I over the years. What I can tell you is that we all fall victim to neglecting time and not making enough of an effort. We all can get bogged down and distracted by the day to day. But I’m just pointing out ways to reinforce that bond and ways to strengthen it as a whole. Trust and believe you are all never alone, everyone goes through it. But it’s up to you and your partner to make the conscious effort to try. Remember, relationships are always about compromise it’s never a one way street, it takes two for anything to happen. I hope this post helped you in some way shape or form.  and I hope you’ve gained some reassurance in your relationships and I hope you all will make efforts to building a strong, loving and lasting relationships with your partner. Try it out and see what happens.

 

I hope you all found this helpful and useful. I’d love to hear from you , please do share your thoughts below or even write to me. I love hearing your thoughts about this topic or any other topic, we can all help each other out. Let me know what other topics you ‘d like me to write about and share with you. I’m always happy to share my experiences and knowledge with you.

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Pnina Tornai Presents: LOVE

Posted on: July 12, 2017

Last May, Pnina Tornai launched her 2018 LOVE bridal collection. I was fortunate enough to get a sneak peak at the collection before it was release to the public. I have photos of the entire press preview here. The collection features 30 new dresses that are similar to the Tornai’s couture collection in both style and design. The LOVE collection offers a variation of different silhouettes and fabrics that include: tulles, chiffons, laces and satins as well as her signature illusion corset.

Although, most of her gowns start at $9,000 and up, she created this collection so it can be LOVED by all. The collection starts at an affordable price point of $2500 and up. As I previewed this collection, I couldn’t help but fall in love with every single piece. It made me want to get married all over again. I found myself texting my husband to tell him, “We need to get married again with me wearing one of these gowns!!” I also said this to Pnina herself.  Two words, ABSOLUTELY STUNNING! Each gown sparkled and shined on the models, different styles to suit just about any bride to be or those renewing their vows.

 

Pnina Tornai is a well-renowned top couture fashion designer. Her designs have been adored, worn and loved by so many over the years.  Not only can I say I’ve been a fan of hers for many years, but I’m happy to call her a friend as well. Beautiful and kind hearted with impeccable design skills and vision. If you haven’t seen this collection you should definitely check it out. Below are photos of some of my favorites from the LOVE Collection 2018. View the entire collection here.

 

To all my brides and those renewing their vows, Congratulations and Best Wishes.

Love is such a beautiful thing!!

I hope you enjoyed this post and you love the collection, it’s simply stunning! Let me know your favorite below!!!

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!

 



All things Wedding

Posted on: May 3, 2017

Getting Married? 

How exciting, Congratulations! This time is always such a precious time, and I know the entire process can be stressful, daunting and not to mention overwhelming at times. But it’s important to take a deep breath and enjoy the entire process, because after all those months or even the year of planning, it goes by in a blink of an eye. After being a bride, I totally can sympathize everything your feeling and going through so I’d be happy to help however I can. Whether it’s advice, styling tips, accessories, I can use my experiences to try and ease your worries and or concerns. Please feel free to comment below or even write to me I’d be happy to help. Please do check out my blog for I’ve written post on advice, ideas and more here : http://www.socialfashionistabeauty.com/category/wedding-wednesdays/.  More post on All things Weddings and more for my Wedding Wednesday series will be coming soon!

I can tell you this, all the stressful moments will ALL be worth it in the end. Why? Your wedding day will be a beautiful day with memories to last a lifetime. I personally, absolutely love weddings! I loved being a bride even though at times it was overwhelming it was still a time I’d never forget. I understand and sympathize that it all can be a lot in the grand scheme of things, but just remember to enjoy the process and this very special time. Because before you know it will be over, at least the planning part and your big day.  Then, this new and exciting chapter begins as: your life as Mr and Mrs! That time as Mr. and Mrs. is another big step in your life that will be another amazing journey to add memories, moments and much more. If you have any questions, concerns or need advice on anything wedding please feel free to comment below or even write to me.

Looking for bridal accessories?

I know and understand that with all the options out there, the styling process can be overwhelming. Rest assure, I can be of assistance and take care of you. I’d be happy to work closely with you to help you style your jewelry and accessories to bring out your best look on your special day.

Take a look at my online jewelry boutique and check out our newest Bridal collection. We offer a variety of jewelry and accessories that will be just perfect for your day! Check out my boutique here: www.chloeandisabel.com/boutique/emilydesouza and our bridal collection here: https://www.chloeandisabel.com/boutique/emilydesouza/shop/collection/22203/bridal-shop-2c0d6085-bdb4-43c1-81b1-79906479a05b

 

Please feel free to write to me at: emilysotera@socialfashionistabeauty.com or comment below!

Happy planning and Congratulations!

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WEDDING WEDNESDAY SERIES: ENGAGEMENT PHOTOS– OUR PHOTO SESSION

Posted on: April 6, 2016

Hi Loves!

 I hope everyone is having a great week so far. It’s almost over, but in the meantime enjoy my new Wedding Wednesday Series post. So, as many of you know I’ve shared photos from my wedding on my various social media accounts, advice, wedding decor ideas, and other details leading up to your special day. But what I haven’t shared is our Engagement Photo shoot session and how we chose our photographer + videographer.

Well, ask and you shall receive….

It been 3 years since our engagement shoot. And come to think of it, it was this same weekend and time when we had our shoot, can’t believe it’s been 3 years, feels like yesterday. The weather on that day was so beautiful. Thankfully, mother nature blessed us with good weather for our day shoot.

To start, let me tell you how we choose our photographer and how we got to our engagement shoot session.

First off, finding a photographer isn’t easy, especially one that you’ll like and get along with. After much research and many phone calls, we finally narrowed down a company to work with. And even to this day, we are so happy we chose them and continue to rave and recommend them to anyone and everyone.

After meeting with a representative from their company in our local area, hearing about their work, packages and their reviews we went home to discuss. After many phone calls, meetings, and reading reviews of various companies/photographers/videographers we narrowed down our search. We chose to work with George Street Photo + Video, and we couldn’t be more happier and grateful to them.

George Street Photo + Video specialize in Photojournalistic style of photography. They strive for excellence in executing all of their clienteles needs. They also cater and make make their clients feel as comfortable as possible and are willing to work with you and your needs and wants for your special day. I’m sure other companies do the same, but we felt most comfortable with them after our first initial meeting and going forward. So it just make it that much easier for us to decide to work with them . After you sign the contract and decide to work with them, you select a package, and then they send over their Style Quiz. The style quiz is designed to help best decide and choose the best and right photographer + videographer that best suits your needs and what you’re looking for, for the your special day. After that is determined they will then give you your results and a list of photographers+ videographers are sent to you, you can then view there work and decide from there. Our results for our quiz were : Romantic, Classic, Elegant and Modern. So we then chose our photographer and videographer and they sent us their contact information. From start to finish George Street Photo + Video were very accommodating and they were great to work with. Which is why there aren’t enough words to describe how thankful and blessed we were to find them and work with them. So if you haven’t checked them out I’ll be sure to leave their information below.

Engagement Shoot Advice

What I loved about George Street Photo+ Video is that they work with your needs and wants. So that the vision you have for your photos can be met and executed. What my husband and I also appreciated was that they gave us the contact information for our photographer + videographer. If you can, I’d suggest you contacting them and reach out prior to having your engagement shoot. I know you’ll initially reach out to them to plan out your engagement shoot day, but if you can meet with them beforehand, in my opinion it would make the shoot run even more smoothly. It was such a relief and great to meet out photographer prior to our Engagement shoot. We were able to tell him about us, as he did the same. And he told us about his work and the way he shoots, and we were able to give him our input and what we were look for, for our engagement shoot and our wedding photos. Our initial meeting went off with flying colors, we connected and jived so well. And come engagement shoot day, we were laughing, smiling, and just having a grand ol’ time.

Do your research…. If you have certain photo details or visions in mind tell your photographer beforehand Also, if you want to use props, bring them along. A huge resource and tool that I used throughout my wedding planning is Pinterest. It’s a great website that has an abundance of ideas, details, and decor references that can be useful for you for any occasion. If you haven’t checked it out you should. Check out my personal page and you can see all my vision boards : https://www.pinterest.com/SocFashBeaut17/

Lighting is very important when trying to get the perfect shot. Naturally lighting to be exact. So try and schedule your shoot for the early morning hours or early to mid afternoon hours if your shooting outside.

Try not to wear bold graphics. They tend to distract and lose focus from the photos aesthetics and main focus which is you the couple. Photographers notes: Everyone wearing the same clothing, tend to blend in together and leaving little to not much pop and life to the images. Coordinate VS. Matching…. let’s not get cheesy! Avoid large logo’s, emblems and graphics like “GAP” and “Old Navy” because again, these will typically distract attention away from the subject. We want your faces and emotion to show, not promote the clothing company you purchased from! Be timeless. If your planning on making outfit changes bring it all with your along with your props if you will be having any. You’ll be able to change but on the go, you’re models for the day go with it and work it!!

Lastly,

Remember photos tell stories.. Create a love story/story you and your partner want to display and tell. Show off your personalities and have fun with it. These are your photos for the world to see and to cherish for years to come. So, laugh, smile, make jokes, kiss, and have SO MUCH FUN! That’s the whole point of the session. Enjoy it all!

Please enjoy photos from our Engagement shoot. I hope they inspire and give you ideas for your upcoming engagement shoot. I’ll be sure to list the information below for George Street Photo + Video and our photographer. Congrats, Enjoy + Best Wishes!!

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Robert Carlo Photography

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Brooklyn, New York City 11206

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WEDDING WEDNESDAY SERIES: FRIDAY FDAY (WHAT DOES THAT MEAN) Say NO to DIVORCE Say YES to LOVE and a LASTING MARRIAGE

Posted on: March 16, 2016

Everyone of us have experienced some dryspells, bumps and hurdles. In every relationship and marriage,  life  happens and reality at time hits us hard.  At one point in our lives,  we tend to lose touch with our significant others, partners and life long soulmates. Sometimes, we start to lose faith, become afraid or unaware of what the outcome may be, or what to come for our relationship. And as much as we don’t want to admit it sometimes that initial “spark” can lose it’s flame.

But there are ways to get back on track to where it all started, and re-ignite that spark………

Everyday I continue to count my blessings, and I thank god for all the blessings he’s given both my husband and myself. Thankfully, we continue to remain heavy in love and believe in our love, bond, and our vows we pledged to one another. But every now and then we may get into a big  disagreement or argument. And we just can’t seem to stand the sight of one another. This is natural and part of that bond. It happens to the best of us.  But no what how big the fight is, we know that we are in this together and till we are old and gray.  We know that no matter what, we love one another and we couldnt’ imagine life without the other person in it.

But in any relationship, disagreements and arguements  will and can happen and sometimes you are at each other’s throats and can’t seem to get on the same page. Some times the best solution is space, and taking time to regroup,  think through your thoughts before speaking outright and saying something you will regret in the long run. And I know as much as you hate yourself after the fact, we all have been in the heat of the moment and have said the most hurtful things to our partners and really in the end don’t mean it. We’re all victims of this…..

The point of this post is to share my beliefs and thoughts on marriage through my experiences in my own marriage.  What my husband and I do to keep the flame and love makin’ alive and kickin’. As well as exploring ways in keeping a healthy, strong and loving marriage. Including ideas and activities to do with your spouse or partner to maintain a strong and thriving relationship/marriage.  I also introduce something that I saw  that has become a big thing that many people are trying out and seeing big improvement in their relationships and marriages.

For my husband and myself, we make it a point to always set aside time for ourselves. We believe in balance. As hard as it can be, we try and balance our time wisely, among each other, family, work life, as well as with our friends. It can be tough but we try our very best. We also try and go out every friday for a date night. During that time, we find it’s important to engage with one another, setting aside our phones, and ignoring everything else but ourselves and the moment. It’s important to take that time, to step away from work, your phones, and other distractions and really enjoy the moment and night together.

Although we don’t have children at this point in our lives. It’s something we want but it’s in our future plans, just not at this point in time. But with work, and our crazy busy schedules, during the week  having that “quality time” always is something we and i’m sure everyone in a marriage or relationship wants, but sometimes work and other engagements can get in the way of that time.  So I can’t stress to you enough, having that time is VERY important. Whatever you may do, it helps in keeping that connection and bond alive and kickin’.

I’m a huge fan of Youtube, and have partnered up with them as well. And one day after watching our friends and one of our favorite Youtube Vloggers Benji and Judy from ItsJudysLife, they spoke about it being “Friday FDAY.” Just like the rest of the world we wondered, ” What the hell are they talking about?” Some of us I’m sure t questioned and said, ” Hmmm, is Friday FDAY mean, today they are gonna have sex or F*** ( I hate using that term, but i’m sure we were all thinking it) ?” You know we were all thinking it. Now for those of you who don’t know them, they are a married couple and a family of 5. They are blessed with 3 beautiful girls, Julianna (their oldest 3 yrs. old) and the twins Miya and Keira (2 yrs. old).

While Judy was getting ready in her beauty room, she started to speak about marriage, and how 50% of marriages end in divorce. And America is the #1 country with the highest percentage rate where marriages end in divorce. She also mentioned that as of late her and Benji have been fighting non-stop and just at each others throats. With work, the girls, and everyday life, all these  factors have played a part in why they’ve had some of their disagreements. This happens to all of us they aren’t the only couple, we all have experienced this in our relationships and marriages. And sadly sometimes, many have ended their marriage because they couldn’t get on the same page anymore and they just fell out of love. But not every marriage is bound for divorce and Mark and I like Benji and Judy and others say NO to divorce.

Like Judy and Benji explain and how they look forward to their Friday FDAY, Judy calls it a movement and it needs to happend for every couple out there.  We, (Mark and I), believe anything and everything has a solution and it’s fixable. We know what’s important and continue to always  remember all the reasons why we got married and why we are together. In the end, we realize that no fight is ever that important and we will continue to work at our marriage and our relationship. Because it’s that important to us, and although we love eachother so much, someitmes love isn’t enough. Which is why we travel and go on trips, engage in activities that reinforce the love we share, and all the things we believe in for us and our marriage.  Just like Judy and Benji, they too have the same beliefs and even though they’ve been fighting recently, they planned a weekend getway/ date night away from the girls, (as much as they hate leaving them behind), to enjoy one another, destress, relax, and have fun with one another.

Heres’ the link to the FDay reference in Judy and Benji’s Vlog on ItsJudysLife: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FpmVh6KTzLM

Now cue the meaning behind Friday FDay……. Interpretation is up to you, the “F” in FDay can mean whatever you and your partner/spouse choose it to be.

FRIDAY FDAY:

  • Dates that end in bed with your spouse can lead to stronger, healthier, more committed marriages. Take the Fday Challenge at fridayfday.com and see why.

  • Your marriage counts and is worth investing in! Do so, by taking the Fday Challenge at Fridayfday.com. All that’s required of you is that you go on dates with your spouse that end in bed. Yeah, we know, you’re welcome. Oh yeah, a date doesn’t have to be extravagant. Could just be a walk around the block or it could entail a weekend trip to the City. No matter. Just spend at least an uninterrupted hour with your spouse each week and you’ll feel the transformation!

  • FDay is a movement for married couples, dating couples etc…. to come together and reconnect and rekindle their relationship. And enjoy the time together with no distractions.

Whether you have kids or no kids, whether your married or in a relationship, it’s important to take the time for eachother, have fun with one another, and enjoy life together. And makin’ love to one another is such a beautiful thing, a time to be shared with the one person that truly matters. It’s the build up of emotions and feelings that’s so strong, so intense and magnified. That in the end you realize your bond and love is so much more important than any  fight or disagreement That closeness, with eachother is a feeling that’s irreplaceable. Nothing beats that feeling in my book….

 So, no matter what you do: a date night, weekend getaways, taking a walk, whatever it may be do it together without any distractions. And focus on one another and continue to connect with one another. Take that time to rekindle your love and reconnect with one another. In my opinion, no matter what you call it, it’s important to reinforce the love you have for one another, continue to light that spark, and never let the romance die, no matter what life throws at you. Life can be difficult at times, but taking the time to reinforce the love and care you both have for one another and the foundation you two built together is something we all need to do and it’s important to know this and to do this.

Everyone has their own way of dealing with things, I just thought to share with you what my husband and I do to rekindle our love, everyday. We LOVE to travel, and the best part about seeing the world is seeing it and experiencing with my best friend, soulmate and life-long partner. We are big foodies too, so we go out for a date night every Friday which we started when we were dating and continue to do so in our marriage today. We enjoy trying out new trendy restaurants near us and date night is great for doing that while reconnecting with eachother after a long busy week. We believe in living a healthy lifestyle, so we like to work out with one another and enjoy going on walks together over the weekends when the weather is nice. Whatever it may be, these are just some ideas/ activities you and your special someone can do together to keep the romance alive and kickin’. And remember no relationship or marriage is EVER PERFECT we ALL hit a few bumps in the road but we ALWAYS meet back in the middle together still so in love like the when we were dating but even better.

My advice to you all is that divorce should never be an option. It should never be a word that you speak of in your marriage. Try and work it out through communication, learning to hear one another out whole-heartedly. Learn to compromise, learn to see the situation from the others perspective (step into their shoes). Try to grow together never one higher than the other, this is a partnership not a dictatorship. And if working it out together doesn’t work, seek help and speak to a professional to help work through some those problems and issues you are experiencing.

Trust and believe talking everything out makes it all better. Hear one another, respect one another and love one another. Life and love is never easy, especially when other factors are added to the mix, but if the love is there and it’s worth it to you both, than your love and relationship is ALWAYSworth fighting for, remember that. I have a girlfriend that is dealing with stuff and going through a difficult time with her spouse, and divorce is still a lingering option for her, and she feels strongly about it. Every situation is different, but in my opinion I feel like adding to the situation, like a baby or jumping into marriage when you already have lingering issues or problems won’t ever truly fully solve the problem(s) completely. Before adding a baby or jumping into any situation, think it out, talk it out and lay everything out on the table. Healthy communication is sometime we all need to practice in all our relationships, its vital and important. But I continue to always encourage anyone to communicate with their spouses or partner, and try to fix it. Because they didnt’ just get married by chance, it was a choice and deep down inside the love is there. They just need to break down those “factors” and lingering issues that are causing reoccuring disagreements.

Relationships are all about learning and growing with one another. Sharing your feelings and expressing your thoughts only makes you as an individual and as a unit better. You can only grow and get better by learning from one another. Try it and you two will see what I’m talking about. It’s never gonna be easy, but just know that everything you and your partner are doing to better your union and your relationship is always gonna be better in the long run. Try out Friday FDAY or whatever you choose and see if you see any improvements! Again, I wish you all the best and more in your union and relationships, wishing you all a lifetime filled with lots of love, laughter, happiness, blessing and so much more.

What do you and your partner do when you have a disagreement or fight?

Do you and your spouse, partner, or significant other go on date nights or getways?

What do you do to rekindle your love?

I wanna hear from you, comment below and write to me.

For more on the Wedding Wednesday Series, Stay Tuned!

XO,

SOCIALFASHIONISTABEAUTY

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WEDDING WEDNESDAY SERIES QUOTES & INSPIRATION

Posted on: September 30, 2015

As a blogger, English Major, and PR Woman, at times I look towards a book, author, poem, or even a movie for inspiration. For this weeks Wedding Wednesday series, I’m writing about the various things that can help inspire us to write our : speech, vows, advice etc…  for weddings.

This post for my Wedding Wednesday Series, is to help inspire, motivate, and give assistance to those looking for words to contruct your speech, vows,  or advice for a couple/wedding. Below I’ve typed out my speech I wrote for my Sister in Law’s wedding as well as various quotes to help you. Make it personal, relatable, and speak from the heart.

Marriage is such a beautiful thing, and witnessing the love two people share is one of the most inspiring things anyone can do in their life. So writing about it in my opinion, is quite moving and motivating all on its own.

1. “Where there is love there is life.” – Mahatma Gandhi

2. “You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”

– Dr. Seuss

3. “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” – Maya Angelou

4. “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
– Mignon McLaughlin

5. “I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.”– Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

6. “If I had a flower for every time thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.”– Alfred Tennyson

 7. “What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strength each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?” – George Eliot

8. “Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.”– Plato

9. “Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”– Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

10. “There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.”– Martin Luther

My Matron of Honor Speech for my Sister in Law and Brother in Law:

“Hello and Good evening. For those of you who don’t know me my name is Emily, Stacy’s, Sister-in-Law, wife to her brother, Mark. Let me first welcome you all to this joyous occasion celebrating Stacy and Antaeus. Now, I have a few words for the couple and I’d like to share it with you all.

It wasn’t too long ago, Mark and I were celebrating our wedding with family and friends. And I remember Stacy telling me how she was inspired by our wedding, the idea of marriage and its union. And I knew that not too long after she and Antaeus would be embarking on that same journey in due time. And here we are on this beautiful day, celebrating their union of marriage. The day they told us the news of their engagement, I was so overjoyed and excited for them. And when Stacy and Antaenus asked me to be part of their wedding, I felt very honored to share in their specifal day. And I couldn’t be happier for the two of them and this new chapter they are about to begin.

Here’s a quote from French novelist and Romance poet Victor Hugo, something to lead you both in your married life together. ” May you have enough happiness to keep you sweet, enough trials to keep you strong, enough hope to keep you happy, enough friends to give you comfort, enough determination to make each day a better day than yesterday.”

To conclude if we could raise our glasses and toast to the bride and groom. Congratulaions and

best of luck! I love you both! And let’s continue to enjoy the evening. Thank you!”

What inspires you when writing a speech? What are your thoughts about weddings and speech? Comment below I’d love to here from you!

XO,

SOCIALFASHIONISTABEAUTY


WEDDING WEDNESDAY SERIES: IDEAS AND TIPS FOR YOUR BEST DAY EVER!

Posted on: September 16, 2015

Here are some of my Ideas and Tips for YOUR BEST DAY EVER!!!

Planning a wedding can be stressful, but it’s all worth in the long run. Just remember to enjoy it all, the sleepless nights and all the tears along the way, its a process. But we all go thru it your not alone.

Here are some of my Ideas and Tips for YOUR BEST DAY EVER:Ways to keep your guest entertained and ideas for your BIG DAY!

1. WELCOME YOUR GUEST

Your guest took time out of their busy schedules to celebrate you and your longtime love. Show them your appreciation with a personalized Welcome bag for guest staying in hotels. Some Items to include in your Welcome Bag: A personalized Welcome Note, Snacks, Lists of things to see in the area, Water, Emergency Kit for the day after the wedding! 🙂

2. HAVE YOUR GUEST CAPTURE THE MOMENTS

There are so many great wedding apps today to use so your guest could capture every moment of your wedding! Create a Hastag (#) for your guest to use to showcase your Special Day!

3. GREET YOUR GUEST + THANK YOUR GUEST

If your wedding was anything like mine, you know how  hard it is to greet each and every one of your guest when you have a BIG wedding! But you gotta do it! Show Your  LOVE + appreciation to your guest. My husband and I made it a point to greet each and everyone of our 600 something guest. We enjoyed sharing warm greetings, hugs and kisses with ALL our dear Family and Friends! Spread the LOVE!! And after your big day is over, remember to send your guest a lovely Thank you card! Thank them for attending and if they gave you a gift.

4. SLURGE ON AN OPEN BAR

Cocktails anyone…. While open bars can be pricey, their are ways to keep them budget -friendly. You may consider having a few options like beer, wine, and a few cocktail options, whatever you decide, keep the drinks flowing all night long!

5. BE PHOTO READY- PHOTOBOOTH TIME

Photobooths at weddings have become all the rave. They also makes a a great alternative to your guestbook or favors. Who doesn’t love using props while posing for a photo!!

6. SKIP THE TRADITION IF IT ISN’T FOR YOU+ PERSONALIZE YOUR WEDDING

Some brides may like the tradition like then skip it! Remember its YOUR day, do what makes you and your partner happy. Make it a day that signifies you two.

7. DANCE THE NIGHT AWAY

Remember although its a day to celebrate the love for you and your NOW husband, it’s also a party for your guest. So keep them entertained, with a good balance of music for all ages. Keep them on the dance for until its time to say Good Night. Arrange a set list of songs, and what you want to be played throughout the course of the evening with your DJ or Band.

8. KEEP THE KIDS ENTERTAINED TOO!

If there are kids attending your BIG day, keep them entertained too! Make your own kid-friendly coloring book,  pair with some crayons for them to color at the table. Also, NOTE: Don’t open up the dance-floor TOO late,  the little one’s want to enjoy and break a leg on the dance floor.

9. PRESENTATION IS KEY!

WOW your guest with something different and unique, but still personalized to something about you and your partner. Whether it’s your centerpieces, decorations, Small details, or even the Food– whatever it may be,  keep them on their toes, while they continue to enjoy their evening.

10. REMEMBER TO HAVE FUN!

It’s your wedding day, things may not ALWAYS go according to plan but its OKAY! After all is said and done, your Special day, will be the BEST DAY EVER, because you Finally get to marry your longtime love. So, regardless of minor details that may occur just live in the moment and enjoy. Because the day does go SUPER fast! So enjoy every moment and take it all in!!

Happy Planning and Congratulations on your BIG DAY!!

For more of Wedding Wednesday Series Stay tuned for more Next week!

What we’re your wedding day highlights?

XO,

SOCIALFASHIONISTABEAUTY


Wedding Wednesday Series: What not to Wear: Top 5 MISTAKES a Wedding Guest Makes. (Fashion and Styling)

Posted on: September 2, 2015

Can’t find anything to wear and you have a wedding TO GO TO? With wedding season upon us, stores pack their racks with many floral prints, bright & pretty dresses for you to choose from. But your biggest dilemmia is what is the most suitable for you as A guest…. It may not be your wedding but you still want to LOOK chic, polished and KEEP IT CLASSY FOR your friend’s or loved ones special day. YOU TOO ALSO WANT TO LOOK GOOD AS A GUEST TO A WEDDING. But you NEVER want to take the SHINE away from the Bride & Groom. Here are MY Top 5 most common mistakes a women makes when dressing for a wedding. (NOTE THESE ARE JUST SUGGESTIONS, AND WHAT I’VE SEEN AND JUST MY OPINION).

MISTAKE #1. WEARING WHITE

NOW WHY WOULD YOU DO THIS? ITS NOT YOUR WEDDING DAY AND YOU ARE DEFINITELY NOT THE BRIDE! SAVE YOURSELF SOME DRAMA AND A CONFRONTATION FROM THE BRIDE AND STIR CLEAR OF WEARING THIS COLOR. FOR SOME IT MAY SEEM LIKE AN OLD-FASHIONED AND OUTDATED RULE, AND YOU MAY HAVE A COOL AND CALM BRIDE, BUT IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT WEARING WHITE AT SOMEONE ELSE WEDDING MAY OFFEND OR RUB OFF ON OTHERs THE WRONG WAY. IN ALL HONESTY, THIS IS THE MOST OBVIOUS MISTAKE FEMALE GUEST MAKE WHEN WEARING WHITE TO A WEDDING OR ANY OF THE WEDDING FESTIVITIES. EVEN IT YOU WANT TO BE SEEN AS THE CENTER OF ATTENTION, BE KIND AND NOTE ITS NOT YOUR DAY SO DON’T TRY AND STEAL THE SHINE OFF THE BEAUTIFUL BRIDE. TO PLAY IT SAFE GO FOR A LITTLE BLACK DRESS. even though white is such a classic and feminine color to choose, just for that day and during any of the wedding festivities avoid wearing this color option. try a classic little black dress to play it safe.

MISTAKE #2. WEARING RED

ALTHOUGH RED IS A GREAT COLOR, AND A GREAT COLOR CHOICE FOR A WEDDING. BUT red DRAWS ALOT OF ATTENTION–ITS BRIGHT AND VIBRANT SO INSTEAD OF EYES BEING ON THE BRIDE & GROOM YOU MAY BE THE ONE GUEST that everyone WILL BE STARRING AT. AND IF YOU ARE TAKING PICTURES and THE COLOR PALETTE OF CHOICE IS  MOSTLY PASTELS OR SOMETHING ALONG THOSE LINES AND YOUR THE ONE IN RED YOU WILL DEFINITELY STAND OUT! TRY NOT TO “STEAL THE SHOW” FROM THE LOVELY BRIDE AT ALL COST AND AVOID WEARING A FIERY RED OR EVEN A BRIGHT RED DRESS. TRY SOMETHING LESS LOUD AND MORE SUBDUED LIKE A DEEP CRANBERRY just SOMETHING NOT SO BRIGHT and fiery.

MISTAKE #3. NOT FOLLOWING THE INVITATION DRESS CODE

ANOTHER BIG MISTAKE THATS MOST COMMON FOR GUEST IS THAT THEY FAIL TO CHECK THE DRESS CODE FOR THE EVENT. WHEN YOU IGNORE THE SUGGESTED DRESS CODE FOR THE EVENT IT CAN SHOW LACK OF INTEREST OR RESPECT FOR THE COUPLE AND THEIR FAMILIES. RULE OF THUMB: IF ITS A BLACK TIE WEDDING GREAT OPTIONS WOULD BE A NICE EVENING GOWN OR A SLEEK AND CHIC COCKTAIL DRESS IS APPROPRIATE AND EXPECTED. AND FOR A SUMMER CASUAL OR EVEN BEACH WEDDING A NICE DAYTIME SUMMER DRESS, SKIRT AND TOP OR A LIGHT SUIT IS REQUIRED. AND IF THERE IS NOt a SPECIFIED DRESS CODE, FOR A SUMMER WEDDING A COLORFUL SUMMER DRESS IS A SAFE BET AND FOR A FALL WEDDING A DEEP BUT SUBTLE COLOR DRESS WOULD BE FINE AS WELL. PAYING ATTENTION TO the DRESS CODE IS KEY, PAY ATTENTION TO DETAIL SO YOU AVOID FEELING OUT OF PLACE,

MISTAKE #4.

DRESSING OR WEARING THE SAME COLOR AS THE BRIDESMAID IS A DEFINITE NO NO!! IF YOU WEREN’T ASKED TO BE IN THE WEDDING AND YOU HAVE NO PART OF THE ENTOURAGE DON’T CHOOSE THE SAME COLORs AS THE THEME FOR THE WEDDING. YOU DON’T WANT TO CAUSE CONFUSION FOR THE GUEST LET ALONE THE WEDDING ENTOURAGE. FINDING OUT THE COLOR SCHEME AND trying to COORDINATE IDEAS TO GO WITH THE THEME IS THOUGHTFUL AND A GREAT IDEA, but in retrospect BY DOING SO, YOU MAY GIVE OFF THE IMPRESSION THAT YOU’RE OFFENDED AT NOT BEING ASKED TO BE A BRIDESMAID. SOMETIMES IT CAN BE JUST ON COINCIDENCE AND NOT PLANNED AND IN THOSE CIRCUMSTANCES THEY CAN’T BE HELPED. THESE ARE JUST BASED ON MY EXPERIENCES AND WHAT I’VE SEEN AT THE MANY WEDDINGS I’VE BEEN TO AND ESPECIALLY MY OWN WEDDING. SO JUST A RULE OF THUMB WHEN CHOOSING COLOR SCHEMES AS A GUEST TO A WEDDING.

MISTAKE #5

THIS IS DEFNITELY A HUGE NO NO NO! PLUS TO ME IN MY OPINION, its VERY TACKY AND DISRESPECTFUL TOWARDS The COUPLE AND THEIR RESPECTIVE FAMILIES. NOW I KNOW NOWADAYS, WE ALL WANT TO LOOK FLY AND ON POINT ALL THE TIME. AND WITH THE INFLUENCES OF SOCIAL MEDIA AND OTHER PLATFORMS WE Can BE INFLUENCED by this common mistake. just remember a wedding is a classy and memorable event. and by wearing inappropriate clothing, your look can downgrade or cheapen the event. especially wearing something that should be worn during a bachelorette party or a club, definitely not an appropriate look to choose. the reception is definitely a party filled with dancing and i’m sure a room filled with single cuties, but it isn’t the time nor place to show off your curves or best assets. Leave these dress options for the bachelorette party or the club, believe me no one needs to see so much cleveage its not a good look. even though some men may think so, but its not a good look for such a classy event– a wedding!! keep it chic, classy, and polished.

these are just my top 5 what not to wear mistake that i’ve seen and in my opinion are a no no no for a wedding. be mindful and conscious of your surroundings and the couple that your celebrating. remember its a day about them and the love they share. enjoy and have fun!!

If you’re unsure of what to wear feel free to contact me and I can help style your look for any event. write me a message, click on my contact page i’d love to chat and share my styling tips and ideas with you. or email me: emilysotera@socialfashionistabeauty.com.

Stay fab, beautiful, and gorgeous loves always stay true to yourself!!!!

xo,

SOCIALFASHIONISTABEAUTY

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