SFB: Faith+ Positivity+ The Little Things in Life

Posted on: September 10, 2018

 

 

Life can throw us a lot of curve balls and we all continue to fight battles each and every single day. For some of us, this can deter us from moving forward, where we feel less  motivated in doing just about everything. My advice to you all and I’ve always continued to say this—–NEVER GIVE UP. Trust me I know it is easier said than done, trust me I know this all too well and I get it. Sometimes we think simple fixes can make things better, but we mustn’t look for material things or other things to make things better. It’s the little things in life that should help us keep moving forward. It’s starts with this and for some of us we underestimate how powerful this can help us. We all experience various life challenges and through these battles and difficulties we must keep our faith, and believe in the power of prayer.  I know all too well, that with all of life challenges that we go through, it’s so easy to lose our faith and hope. Sometimes our faith comes in waves because we go through all these ups and downs in life which makes us wonder and question our faith and even God. We all want the answers, we all want immediate results. But unfortunately, life doesn’t work out that way. But that doesn’t mean that things can’t happen, but not as immediate as we would like or hope.

 

What we must always remember, it’s all about timing and in God’s time. God hasn’t forgotten us, he is with us and he hears our prayers and thoughts, we must never forget that.  I also hold God and my faith as the number one driving force in my life that has kept me going in all aspects of my life.  In addition to the support of my love, family and friends. They have been the people in my life, the reason why I’m motivated to keep going. Like all of us, I am human, and I can be the first to admit that I have lost my faith at times. But without fail God has shown me in more ways than one that he is with me. I have lived by this scripture from 2 Corinthians 5:7 —-  I will walk by faith even when I cannot see…. I truly believe there are signs everywhere and he is with us, guiding us and showing us even when we can’t see it he is. We must remember that. What I will leave you with is,  remain strong even when it’s tough. Stay positive, even when there are things leading you to think or act otherwise. Pray for peace, pray for hope, protection to keep that positivity and good energy and vibes flowing in your life. Be kind always. Spread love in everything you do. Lastly, keep pushing, keep going. Never lose hope, never give up and never stop believing.

 

Here are some of my words, psalms and bible scriptures that have continued to stay with me and help me throughout my life:

I will walk by faith, even when I cannot see… 2 Corinthians 5:7

Psalms 23

Psalms 91 for Protection

Psalms 37:4

Corinthians 13-4

Psalms 46:5

Proverbs 3:1-12

Luke 11:1-54

Whatever you believe in, keep that and hold onto to that. It will help you during all of life challenges. Stay inspired, empowered, motivated and always keep the faith. Stay positive!

 

 

 

 

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Remember to always have faith, stay strong, keep the positive vibes flowing, never give, never lose hope and never ever stop believing.

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!


Heart of the Filipina

Posted on: June 13, 2018

 

Beauty is one thing, but a pure heart that is beautiful.

Heart like no other, the Heart of the Filipino.

In honor of Philippines Independence, I wanted to take this time to pay tribute and homage to my heritage and roots. Happy Independence Day beautiful Philippines! May your natural beauty, soulful people and timeless treasures shine brighter and brighter. Proud to be a Filipina. Pilipinas kong mahal (I love the Philippines). As a Filipina-American, I’m proud of my heritage and culture, and I’m proud to share it with you. I hope to continue to share more of my culture, heritage and roots throughout my journey.

Continue to remain humble, grateful, kind, loyal, loving, and always have faith. Never give up and never stop believing. Keep that spirit and light alive, always be inspired, empowered and enlightened! Many blessings and much love!

As always, thanks for reading, following along and following the journey!

 


No Beauty Shines brighter than that of a Good Heart

Posted on: March 29, 2018

“A woman with a voice, is by definition a strong woman.” 

Take delight in the Lord and he shall give you the desires of your Heart. Psalm 37:4

 

I hope everyone is having a great week so far. This post I’m sharing today is about finding strength, trusting it, reflection and having a good heart. In life, we all go through things that many of us can’t explain or don’t even understand. Sometimes, things happen in our lives, that is so unexpected, heartbreaking and life changing that it effects us in so many different ways. I, myself have been going through a very painful time in my life. Something so painful I wouldn’t wish this kind of pain on anyone. They say that pain changes people. There are two types of pains, one that hurts you and the other that changes you. It can make a person trust less, overthink more and sometimes even shut people out. Pain can also be a motivator for finding strength.

During this time of reflection, heartache, soul searching and guidance through my faith. I’ve seen myself struggle through the pain. I see that pain has changed me in a way where I was at a point where I’ve doubted others and myself. I’ve seen how my pain has hurt me to the core. I’ve even been at a point where I’ve completely shut people out. Not that it was on purpose, not that I didn’t or haven’t valued them, their care or advice. But I couldn’t bare to have my pain and hurt drown in them too. When one experiences pain of this nature, the only natural and human reaction is to feel alone. Leaving you with much doubt –where you begin to question every little thing.

Please know this,  TRUST and BELIEVE if you’re going through any kind of pain or hurt you’re not alone. Even though it feels like you are, you aren’t. I tell myself this everyday, because I still struggle with this from time to time. I also know that it’s easier said than done. What I have learned is that we can’t never allow the pain or hurt to let us lose ourselves in the process. Repeat after me, I matter, I am important and I am enough. These are things I say to myself everyday, although it can be a struggle I still manage to say, believe and repeat it. But hey, trying is half the battle. Sure, I have my moments of sadness, and it’s perfectly normal. Let it out, it’s healthy. We all need a good cry here and there. If we don’t let it out, one of these days you may just explode with an overflow of emotions. But little by little, let it out. Let yourself feel through the pain and hurt. This isn’t something you can prepare yourself for, it’s also isn’t something you can just wake up the next day and just say ok I’m over it. It’s a process, an ebb and flow of ups and downs. Everyday is different. Some days will be good and some days will not be and that’s perfectly fine.

Reflection and Coping….

I reflect, I grieve and I have my ways of coping through it all. We all find ways to deal and cope with things.  I’ve truly appreciated my small inner circle and family for their support, guidance and love during this time. You find that during these times of struggle, you find out whose truly in your corner and by your side.  As far as my time, I try and use my time in a productive way. Whether its keeping myself occupied with work, family, friends or other activities that I enjoy. For instance, I have a passion and love for singing, I have since gotten back into singing, joined a choir and have done a few open mic nights. I found that it has been a way of release and a means to keep my mind off of the pain for the moment in time. I’ve also had the honor and pleasure to guest speak at various business events. Although I’m going through this very painful and tough time in my life, I’d still like to be an advocate and use my voice as a means for positive change and for me its a way to help others and give back, which is my mission and life’s purpose. It truly warms my heart to be able to inspire and empower men and women through this platform. To provide a sense of hope, encouragement and positivity through the lenses of style, beauty, lifestyle as well as real life situations. I hope that my voice, experiences, businesses and words of wisdom provide a sense comfort and strength to all. As well as be a means for positive change not just for ourselves but as a whole.

Let your coping mechanisms be positive and constructive. Don’t let them be ways where it will lead you further down the rabbit whole. If you need to, seek advice from family, your inner circle or even professional help, do so.  Releasing the pain and hurt helps, even if it’s only in the moment it’s conducive to the process. If you can write about it, writing can be very cathartic and helpful too. Let it all out, even if you find yourself getting emotional, LET IT OUT. And remember this is your pain, you’re the one going through this. No matter what advice or what anyone says to you, although the intentions may be for your benefit, this is your process. You handle and you go through the motions how you see fit for yourself. Also, remember to love yourself through it all. Be kind, be gentle to yourself. You’re going through a lot, so don’t be too hard on yourself especially if your trying. Love yourself first and foremost. Take care of you.

Above all, trust and believe that you have the strength, it’s within you.  That voice inside you, that is your inner strength, listen to it. Let it guide and help you through the pain. Sometimes in life, we can’t explain why things happen the way they do. No matter how painful it may be. I can confidently say that I know I’m a good woman, with a good heart and only the purest intentions. But what I have also learned that having a good heart can also cause a tremendous amount of pain and hurt. One thing that I know for sure, I may be going through a tough time now. BUT, this will never stop me from being the woman that I am. No matter how much love and care you have in your heart and even with your good intentions, sometimes not everyone is equipped to handle it, or even grow with you. That’s the tough part, but hey not everyone has the capacity to love the way you love, realize it or see the good, even if it’s starring them right in the face. Sometimes you may be too much goodness and heart that others don’t have the capacity to hold on to it, cherish it and know how to take care of it. I’m content in knowing not to expect a lot in return. But also knowing what I deserve. Even though I know that what I have already matters and I can see the growth potential in all aspects. Not to say you shouldn’t have any expectation but having less expectations saves you from an immense amount of pain. If that makes any sense at all.

Food for thought….

This is what I do know. Here’s the thing about people with good hearts. They give you excuses when you don’t explain yourself. They accept apologies you don’t give. They see the best in you when you don’t need them to. At your worst, they lift you up, even if it means putting their priorities aside. The word “busy” does not exist in their dictionary or vocabulary. They make time, even when you don’t. And you wonder why they’re the most sensitive people. You wonder why they’re the most caring people. You wonder why their existence is not so essential to your well-being. It’s because they don’t make you work hard for the attention they give you. They accept the love they think they’ve earned and you accepted the love you think you’re entitled to. Let me tell you something. Fear the day when a good heart gives up on you. Our skies don’t become grey out of no where. Our sunshine does not allow the darkness to take over for no reason. A heart does not turn cold unless it’s been treated with coldness for awhile. That’s truth and honesty in a nutshell. That’s not bitterness, that true, honest words from someone with a good heart. We don’t just love, we love hard, unconditionally, wholeheartedly and immensely. Find the strength within you to know, no matter what pain can do to you never lose sight of your good heart and pure intentions. Never let pain make you bitter. Turn pain into strength. The road of pain and hurt isn’t easy by no means. Always remember your good heart, you’re a good person and you have the power to be strong, it’s always been inside of you. Never lose sight of your strength and your good heart.

Breathe, and let it go….

Life throws us curve balls, things we can’t explain. They are either there to test us or to strengthen us or even both. I’ve been told that God gives his strongest souls the most challenging feats in life because he knows they can handle it and they will prevail. This hasn’t been easy by no means. But with the grace of God and my faith, I still haven’t lost hope. Turn to your faith and let that be your strength and let that empower you through this time.

Breathe, and let it go. If it’s meant to be it will find it’s way. I firmly believe that. Maybe we’re all experiencing some form of pain for a reason. Sometimes we have to struggle a little to find the deeper meaning behind the message. If you believe in something so much, then keep your faith and find strength through it. When there’s a will there’s a way.  If you’re going through any pain or hurt, remember you’re not alone. I’m here for you. It’s never easy, I’m still going through it. We can remind ourselves of our strengths, our faith and our good hearts. Through it all, we can empower ourselves to find hope, light and positivity through our time of struggle.

 

Remember to never lose faith, never lose hope, never stop believing and never give up! You’re a good soul, a dope soul with a good and pure heart of gold. Never forget that!

 

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting the journey!


Soul Sunday Series: LOVE

Posted on: January 21, 2018

 

Hi my Loves!

Happy Sunday, as you’ve heard already this is my new series: Soul Sundays. Every Sunday I’ll share some music from yours truly, words of wisdom, inspiration and all things good for the soul. For many of us Sundays are the days to spend with God, sports, family etc… Sometimes, during the hustle and bustle of our lives, we often times forget what truly matters and what’s important to us. We only have one life and we shouldn’t let it pass us by. Tomorrow is never promised, this is the time to make it count.  We only have one life, we must live it to the fullest. Love to the fullest and spread the light. Love is a pretty powerful thing, something that shouldn’t be taken for granted or lightly. Love wholeheartedly and unconditionally. Give love to those, deserving of your love. But most importantly love yourself first. Sometimes we forget or don’t love ourselves enough. Love the shit out of yourself and life. When you learn to love yourself, you open the possibility and your heart to be loved. Giving love and being loved is truly something special and a gift.

Loving ourselves and what’s important to us is truly something you can’t take for granted. Don’t give up on something that’s important to you, no matter. Whether it’s your career goals, yourself, a special person in your life, family, no matter what it is, keep spreading the love, spread good vibes, spread kindness and goodness to everything. What you put out into the universe is what will be returned to you. Keep growing, keep evolving and keep the love flowing my loves.

Some words of wisdom, inspiration and more to guide you through your day and week.

On Wings of Love

The priceless gift of life is love,
For with the help of God above
Love can change the human race
And make this world a better place
For love dissolves all hate and fear
And makes our vision bright and clear
So we can see and rise above
Our pettiness on wings of love

God is good, God is Love

Have Faith and Believe

Stay positive and Don’t give up Hope

There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage

Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world

The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet

The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love

Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead

The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart

Continue to spread goodness, spread the love and good vibes always. Love yourself in every way possible. When you love yourself,  you welcome the chance of someone loving you and your beautiful soul. Keep vibrating higher and love that beautiful soul of yours and never let anyone take that away from you. Spread love to others, even if they don’t deserve it, it’s ok. Love anyways, why? Because everyone deserves to be loved, no matter big or small. Love is love, and love is a beautiful thing.  My hope for you all is to practice self love, learn to love, respect love,  spread goodness, kindness and be gentle and kind to your soul always my loves. Have a beautiful Sunday!

Here’s me singing some soulful music for this Soul Sunday, enjoy!

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!

 


Positivity, Confidence, Strength and Self Improvement

Posted on: August 30, 2017

 

It’s a new day, new week! In this post, as I’ve always been authentic, honest and open to you all, this post will give you more insight on me and what I’ve been struggling through lately. I also want to mention, that at this point in my life, I believe that in this current state of being, I’m trying to transform myself into a better person overall. Not to say that I’m not a good person now, I know and believe I am. But we all can find ways to improve in ourselves as a whole.  I believe that with transformation, change for the better is a good thing. It may be scary and challenging in the moment. But change within oneself is good, and its good for the soul as well. I believe it can strengthen your mind, body and soul.

 

In regards to my blog, I still want to and plan to inspire, empower, encourage, and enlighten you through all facets of life.  I’ll continue to empower you while also giving you more insight on my life and me, but ultimately my goal is to strengthen myself, and I hope to continue to do the same for you all as well through this process. I firmly believe in this, while maintaining a positive outlook on life accompanied with a can do attitude, anything is possible. I truly believe that. In doing so, I’d also like to take you on this journey of mine of self improvement.  While I continue to do all those things, I will continue to learn, grow and evolve throughout the process. For me this is a time for reflection, healing, renewing and finding myself again in more ways that I ever thought possible. My goal is to become a better version of myself while continuing to meet my goals and aspirations. I encourage each and every one of you to do so. It can be scary but remember, you are trying, and that’s the first step. Never stop trying to be a better version of yourself, it can only help you in the long run.

What I’m about to tell you may shock many people, but I’m being even more open with you and myself.  I’m bearing myself to the core. Which at times as been a challenge for me. The first step is admitting it, grasping it and willing to change for the better. Finding perspective, and a better sense of self to ultimately feel renewed as a whole.

In the last couple of months, I lost a sense of myself. I started to lose my strength, faith and confidence due to certain things in my life. No one is to blame but myself for allowing myself to feed into insecurities that we all face. For me, I believe myself to be a pretty strong, confident woman, but sometimes I to can falter. Which is what has happened.  But I feel that I’ve found a sense of maturity and humility in admitting that to myself and to you all.  I started to doubt myself and I allowed my insecurities to overcome me. I’m human, I’m not perfect, but this has to be the lowest point in my life right now.  In turn, I didn’t like what I saw in myself,  I knew I needed to make a change. During this time, I’ve been able to reflect and see all these things.  It’s given me time to reevaluate, reflect on everything that transpired in the last couple of months.  Today, I looked at myself in the mirror and I saw ME. I started to recite these affirmations to myself:

I am Bold

I am Beautiful

I am Brave

I am Confident

I am Courageous

I am Capable

I am Strong

I am Enough and I will Never Give Up

I have the strength, to renew myself and my faith to become a better version of ME

I am by no means perfect, I am a work in progress. We all are, every day is a chance to start again, and start anew. Everyday I find myself getting stronger. I believe that tough times and struggles can make you a stronger person. I just continue to believe, remain hopeful and keep my faith that it will all get better soon.

As I recited that to myself, I felt myself becoming stronger. I know this won’t happen overnight, but it’s a start, it’s a process. But I believe in it and I have faith in it. I believe and can see a change in me. I feel that this will be a good thing overall. It will in turn strengthen not only myself but other aspects in my life as well. I want to encourage and inspire you all to do this for yourself. Even when we may think we don’t need to improve, we all can find areas for improvement. In the long run, self improvements can be helpful in many ways. It’s good for all of us. Believe that, and believe in yourself. This has been the hardest post to write, but it’s real, it’s honest and true. I truly believe we are all a work in progress, but I truly believe we all can benefit from this. I know in myself, that it’s been beneficial for me to see myself and see my confidence and strength come back. Join the journey with me, and take time for yourself as well. Remember, self love is important too. See what you find, and how it can help you as a whole and in your life.

I’m believing in the process. With hope and my strong faith I will trust the journey and I know I’m committed to change. As well as find that renewed strength and confidence in myself as I did before. This post is by no means to boast, or whatsoever. It’s a means to share a little more about myself, motivating myself and all of you at the same time. To provide some positive affirmations that have been helpful for me and that can be useful to you too. Remember to always  know your worth, your purpose and true potential.

Always remember to stay positive and optimistic. Don’t be too hard yourself, because at the end of the day your trying your very best. I believe that I am trying my best and I’ll continue to work very hard at it and continue to push through. It takes a lot of courage to stay strong and push through during tough times, but in the end I know I’m becoming a stronger person daily, and I believe and I have faith everything will work out. I believe in you all too!

I hope you found this post helpful in some way. If ever you feel lost, or doubt yourself look deep down inside.  Reflect and remember we are all human, we aren’t perfect, we all have our flaws. But we can find ways to make improvements for the better. What I’ve also found for me that has been helpful is: reading, staying close to my faith, singing, listening to music, putting my energy into my businesses, working out, taking walks and writing have been very therapeutic and beneficial.

What are ways that have helped you pick yourself up? Please do share, I love hearing from you all. I truly believe when we share ideas and thoughts we in turn can help one another become a better version of ourselves.

Have an amazing week loves! Continue to stay motivated, inspired and empowered. Much love and blessings to you all.

As always, thanks for reading, following along and joining the journey!

 


Let’s Talk: Cosmopolitan Seminar!

Posted on: July 17, 2017

In June, I attended a Cosmo Event, Let’s Talk about It– an all day crash course in speaking up, getting real and living your happiest life. The event spoke about topics that are seen as taboo to some but ones that deserved a conversation and to take a deeper look at. It was a great way to offer some advice and to share our thoughts in an open and honest space. We all have goals, dreams, aspirations in life and sometimes its a tough world out there and sometimes our voices are never really heard or even taken into consideration. After attending this event and just as a whole, it’s important to share your thoughts and let your voice be heard. Remember, your voice is your superpower!

Cosmopolitan didn’t disappoint at all, the day was fun, enlightening, empowering and definitely something I along with many benefitted from. With an amazing panel speaking about topics like money & power, sex & romance, beauty & image, happiness and more.

Panel and Order of Events for the day: 

MICHELE PROMAULAYKO

Editor-in-Chief, Cosmopolitan

KELLY OSBOURNE

Television Personality, Host, Fashion Designer, Singer, Actress, and

Author of There’s No F*cking Secret: Letters From a Badass Bitch

GRETCHEN CARLSON

Acclaimed TV Journalist & Women’s Empowerment

Advocate, Author of the upcoming book

Be Fierce: Stop Harassment and Take Your Power Back

CINDY WHITEHEAD

CEO, The Pink Ceiling

Let’s Talk About: Power

LAURA BROUNSTEIN

Director, Editorial and Business Development,

Cosmopolitan & Seventeen

JESSICA BENNETT

Journalist and Author, Feminist Fight Club

TIFFANY DUFU

Women’s Leadership Expert, Author of Drop the Ball

& Chief Leadership Officer for LEVO

Sound Therapy Welcome

SARA AUSTER

Sound Therapy Practitioner

ELLIE BURROWS

CEO, MNDFL

Let’s Talk About: Sex

ELISA BENSON

Digital Special Projects Director, Cosmopolitan,

Seventeen & Redbook

NICO TORTORELLA

Actor and host of his own hit podcast, The Love Bomb

DR. EMILY MORSE, PhD

Founder and Host of the Sex With Emily podcast,

Doctor of Human Sexuality

Let’s Talk About: Image

DR. SABRINA FABI

Board-certified dermatologist, practicing at

Cosmetic Laser Dermatology and Volunteer Assistant

Clinical Professor at the University of San Diego

LEAH WYAR

Chief Beauty Director, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen,

Redbook, Good Housekeeping & Woman’s Day

AYA KANAI

Chief Fashion Director, Cosmopolitan, Seventeen,

Redbook, Good Housekeeping & Woman’s Day

Let’s Dance It Out

KATIA PRYCE

Founder and Creator of DanceBody

 

 

Each panelist had a lot of great advice and information that was definitely honest, true and beneficial. Needless to say, I left the event feeling inspired, enlightened and empowered.  Even more compelled to use my voice for good in respects to all things that I’m passionate about and topics that are important to me and others.

If you haven’t attended a Cosmo Event like this one, you should definitely check one out. You will feel amazing after attending one of their events!!

I hope you enjoyed this post and I hope it was inspiring and motivating. Have you ever felt like you couldn’t speak your mind on the topics mentioned above or even other topics that are important to you? What are some ways you choose to use your voice for good? Please do share your thoughts below or write to me I LOVE hearing from you all!!

 

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!

 


Date Night

Posted on: July 12, 2017

This post is long overdue, I’ve been wanting to share this with you all for quite sometime now. It’s something that is so obvious and simple but it’s so important in any relationship- date night! No matter if you just started a new relationship, have been together for many years, married, married with kids, date night is an essential part in any romantic relationship. In any relationship, whether it’s with family or friends, you have to nurture it, cherish it and this will help the relationship grow. Time is a very important thing, especially quality time, listening, talking and enjoying life — all it has to offer together. Let’s face it, I know we can all admit that at times, it’s easy for us to get caught up in our daily lives, and dates become few and far between-something you too often say, it’ll happen when you have time, or money. Life can be challenging and demanding at times especially if you and your partner have jobs that require more time than the norm or if you’re full time parents. Now I’m not saying your dates have to be over the top or super extravagant  (although a little thought to the evenings or even daytime outing would be nice) but it’s something that should be incorporated into your relationship

My husband and I started having date night back when we started dating almost 9 years ago. It’s something we started that helped strengthened the bond between us. But I have to be honest, due to our demanding schedules it’s been hard lately to keep up the tradition. Although, Friday’s are designated for Date night, it hasn’t been as frequent as we would like. But I’m hoping we can continue doing date night again very soon! At this point, one of us need to just drop everything and say, let’s go out and enjoying the day or evening and our time. Sometimes, maybe a little spur of the moment and impromptu outing might be something you and your partner need to break the ice.

 A Here are reason’s why date night is important:

Date nights are what keep a relationship strong and lasting. Why? During that time, you both can reconnect, engage with one another without being distracted by a phone call, a work email, or even social media. It breaks up the monotony— we can all love our jobs, lifestyles, family and friends but it’s humanly possible to get stuck in a rut. It’s normal, but that’s why date nights are essential. Making time for you and your partner can spice things up in more ways than you think. Sometimes we can get caught up with our crazy daily lives that we forget our partners are there as a support system, to helps through our struggles and see the bigger picture. Carving out time for date night is the perfect solution and way to communicate on another level, instead of talking about the usual day to day. Trust me, your not alone we all fall victim to this from time to time. But it’s up to us to make more of an effort and set aside the time to rekindle, reconnect, relax and enjoy the time together. Cherish it, because this will continue to strengthen the bond you two share.

Get to know your partner on a deeper level–  I know what your thinking,  ” I thought I knew everything there is to know about you…”  Whether you’ve been married for 25 years or have been in a long term relationship with your partner you may think there isn’t much more you need to know or learn about one another. I’ll tell you this, my husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now and dating for almost 9 years and we’ve changed a bit over the years. Not in a bad way, but we’ve grown a lot since we first met and dated, especially in our marriage. No matter what relationship your in and no matter for how long, remember this, a relationship is a partnership. In a partnership, we have to remember we always want to do better and be better. We all want to grow and evolve what’s better than growing not just as individuals but in your marriage/relationship as well. Life always has some kind of lesson for us to learn, the same rules apply in a marriage. So whether you both curl up together by the fire at home or even over a dinner made together at home or out take the time to connect and communicate on a deeper level. It will not only make you grow as individuals but as a couple too. Try it, and see the strength of your bond grow closer.

An added plus, another reason to get all dressed up!!

Also studies have shown that couples who had a new baby but had a weekly date night were half as likely for their marriage quality to decline. Couples who had ‘couples time’ weekly, were more likely to have higher quality relationships and lower divorce rates than those who didn’t. They found that weekly date nights increase communication about important things and remove everyday distractions. Date nights increase novelty so that couples don’t take one another for granted and you both have a chance to do fun, stimulating activities. Having a date night helps spouses to reclaim both their individual identity and their identity as a couple.  Much of the time they are too busy being a daughter, son, boss, worker, mom, dad and friend to remember to focus on who they want to be as people and as a couple.

If you’re constantly on the go with your demanding schedule and job you and your partner are well over due for a date night. For most of us who are in the hustle and bustle,  on the daily grind and going 110% if not more always, then date night is the perfect way to force you to relax and unwind.  What better way then to do it with someone you love and feel 100% comfortable with. When you aren’t distracted the stresses of your job and what have you, having that time away can put you in a refreshed and calm state. So whatever was stressing you before won’t be so hard to tackle, because you took time to hit the refresh, reset  and regroup button and you talked about it together. You both came together to make the time for some good old quality time and R&R with one another. Something we all need from time to time. Try it and see how you handle what life is handing to you with a renewed sense of calmness and mindset. We all need this time, so cherish it, be mindful of it, and use it wisely.

Lastly, you remember your Why… This is so very true for all relationships.  You think, why did we begin this crazy ride through the journey of life together! What brought us here? There’s nothing more refreshing or comforting than to have those moments thinking  “We’re in this together.” To remind you and your partner why you both are working so hard to keep this relationship together, continue to be a solid team, why it’s so important to you both and why you want to continue this together. This couldn’t be more true, especially if your going through a tough time or working through something- moments like these will only provide a sense of clarity and put you at ease. Something you can’t and won’t be able to get if you’re going through it alone or just going through the motions. Now I’m not saying that the other moments you and your partner share aren’t significant.  But, what I am saying is that taking the time and making the effort will not only strengthen your relationship, it will help you both grow even closer as a stronger unified couple not only in life but in marriage. After all, as the saying goes– for better or for worse, in sickness and in health and for as long as you both shall live. 

Life will always have some kind of lesson or test that will challenge you and your partner. It is those test that will strengthen you not only as individuals but as a couple in the long run.

 

These are just my own thoughts and what has worked for my husband and I over the years. What I can tell you is that we all fall victim to neglecting time and not making enough of an effort. We all can get bogged down and distracted by the day to day. But I’m just pointing out ways to reinforce that bond and ways to strengthen it as a whole. Trust and believe you are all never alone, everyone goes through it. But it’s up to you and your partner to make the conscious effort to try. Remember, relationships are always about compromise it’s never a one way street, it takes two for anything to happen. I hope this post helped you in some way shape or form.  and I hope you’ve gained some reassurance in your relationships and I hope you all will make efforts to building a strong, loving and lasting relationships with your partner. Try it out and see what happens.

 

I hope you all found this helpful and useful. I’d love to hear from you , please do share your thoughts below or even write to me. I love hearing your thoughts about this topic or any other topic, we can all help each other out. Let me know what other topics you ‘d like me to write about and share with you. I’m always happy to share my experiences and knowledge with you.

As always, thank you for reading, following along and supporting my journey!


Pnina Tornai Presents: LOVE

Posted on: July 12, 2017

Last May, Pnina Tornai launched her 2018 LOVE bridal collection. I was fortunate enough to get a sneak peak at the collection before it was release to the public. I have photos of the entire press preview here. The collection features 30 new dresses that are similar to the Tornai’s couture collection in both style and design. The LOVE collection offers a variation of different silhouettes and fabrics that include: tulles, chiffons, laces and satins as well as her signature illusion corset.

Although, most of her gowns start at $9,000 and up, she created this collection so it can be LOVED by all. The collection starts at an affordable price point of $2500 and up. As I previewed this collection, I couldn’t help but fall in love with every single piece. It made me want to get married all over again. I found myself texting my husband to tell him, “We need to get married again with me wearing one of these gowns!!” I also said this to Pnina herself.  Two words, ABSOLUTELY STUNNING! Each gown sparkled and shined on the models, different styles to suit just about any bride to be or those renewing their vows.

 

Pnina Tornai is a well-renowned top couture fashion designer. Her designs have been adored, worn and loved by so many over the years.  Not only can I say I’ve been a fan of hers for many years, but I’m happy to call her a friend as well. Beautiful and kind hearted with impeccable design skills and vision. If you haven’t seen this collection you should definitely check it out. Below are photos of some of my favorites from the LOVE Collection 2018. View the entire collection here.

 

To all my brides and those renewing their vows, Congratulations and Best Wishes.

Love is such a beautiful thing!!

I hope you enjoyed this post and you love the collection, it’s simply stunning! Let me know your favorite below!!!

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!

 



A Marriage Prayer

Posted on: July 5, 2017

 

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.
11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
-1 Corinthians 13:4-13 NIV

This past weekend my husband and I attended the wedding of our cousins and celebrated their union and love. It got me thinking and I wanted to write down my thoughts and shed some light on marriage, love, and everything in between. While sitting through the ceremony seeing my beautiful cousin marry her best friend it got me thinking how love is such a beautiful and unique thing.

Every love story is unique and beautiful and I may be bias but I think are is my favorite. While sitting and listening to the priest and the readings chosen for their special day it got me thinking…. I started to think about my husband, Mark and our marriage. For some of you who don’t know, Mark and I have been together now for 9 years and married for 4 years. Our relationship has seen it’s share of ups and downs like everyone does. If anyone ever tells you their marriage is perfect, they are lying and not being true to themselves. Sometimes you need to go through some tough times to realize the good in your relationship, but I say this very lightly and I mean only sometimes.

Often times, life will teach you a lot of things. It will also throw you some curve balls that will test you and your marriage. It’s those test, obstacles and challenges that will definitely make you see what’s worth it. Even through all the trials and tribulations, you have to think about what’s truly important to you and how you and your partner got here. Sometimes these bumps in the road require both of you to reevaluate, regroup and re-center. Through it all, your marriage and relationship will stand the test of time, but in the end, always remember the why. Why did you get marriage? Why are you with your partner?  Think back to the love you both share and tell yourself, what matters most to you and your partner.  Is love still there?  Is this still worth it?   What I’m essentially getting at is that while witnessing the union between our cousins it made me think about my marriage and the why. Even after 4 years of marriage and 9 years together my why is still the same for the both of us. The trials and tribulations, and the part in your vows, “For Better and for worse…” that’s the part when life sends you those obstacles to teach you lessons and to make you stronger, not just as individuals but united as one.   Someone once told me, when you love hard you fight even harder. Maybe this is the case for us and many other couples. But I believe that life teaches us a lot of lessons for a reason. Maybe to test our strength, to test our marriage and us as a whole. But, I’m a firm believer that it will definitely make you stronger in the long run.

Both my husband and I  have said and admitted after that we both said things we didn’t mean, because of anger, in the end we can’t imagine our lives without each of us in it. So, to all the couples out there, remember marriage and any relationship requires work, time, loyalty, communication and being completely open and honest with one another. When gets you down, remember to always talk everything out until your all talked out. Communication and healthy communication is the root to everything.  Face each problem head on. Make each other remember the why, why you two are in this situation and why you got married in the first place. It’s ok to agree to disagree, but know that every relationship is always about compromise. No one is ever always right.There is never “I” in a WE, once you say “I do,” you two are partners in marriage and partners in life. No matter what, you two make the decisions together. Remain a united front always, no matter what.

To our cousins and all the couples out there , I wish you all the very best. May your lives be filled with much love, happiness, laughter and lots of blessings. Know that you are never alone. Know that every relationship goes through their share of ups and downs. Know that every argument is worth fighting for no matter what. Always remember the why and always remember to love and cherish one another.

I’ll leave you with this prayer that has stayed with us since day one of our new chapter as husband and wife.

A Marriage Prayer

Lord, help us to remember when we first met and the strong love that grew between us.

To work that love into practical things so nothing can divide us.

We ask for words both kind and loving, and for hearts always ready to ask forgiveness as well as to forgive.

Dear Lord, we put our marriage into your hands. Amen

Love is truly a beautiful and unique things, with so many twist and turns. Love is something we should always cherish and hold close to our heart. <3 But hey, it’s all part of this crazy thing called life.

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!

 


Phenomenal Women

Posted on: June 21, 2017

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
– Maya Angelou

{“Phenomenal woman”  Angelou speaks as a self-confident woman, she wants to show the world what makes her beautiful and she expresses it in a various ways….. A phenomenal woman can be any shape or size. Creed, religion, age, sexual orientation, the family she was born into, or the colour of her skin do not matter. She is strong yet weak; she struggles with her own identity from time to time, but she understands that is all part of who she is}. 

The poem that I shared with you above is by the famous Maya Angelou. Her words speak so many truths and volumes. She’s a true inspiration to us all in more ways than one. She too, endured her own struggles, but she prevailed and persevered. I, thank her for her words, her works and being the woman that she was and stood for.  She continues to be a powerful voice to many even though she is no longer with us.

Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching, trying to work through my feelings of uncertainty and a whirl of emotions. I’d like to consider myself a strong, independent, confident woman, but at times I can’t say that I am those things. Have you ever felt this way? Or dealt with feelings like these? If so, how did you cope or deal with what you were feeling?  I’m human, and I’m sure some if not all of you all can relate. I’ve read a lot of books that have uplifted my spirits and have helped me get me back to my center. I’m blessed to have people in my life, who have helped me through my struggles. Their advice and words of encouragement have enlightened and strengthened my spirit. I’m grateful and thankful for them. They have helped me through some of the hardest times in life in my life. Just to warn you, this may be a long post, but it’s definitely worth the read.

Recently, I watched a video and read an article on someone who I’ve admired. Her inspirational and powerful life story spoke to me in a way, that brought me to tears.  I wanted to take this time to write and share this with you. In the beginning of 2017, I spoke about being more open with you. I’m exploring my openness with you all today. Little by little you will learn more about me and who I am over time.

Today, I’d like to talk to you about a woman who has a powerful and positive voice. Someone who is not only inspirational but empowering.  She has endured much pain and hardship throughout her life. Which many of us can relate to in some way shape or form. Her story is heartbreaking, uplifting and powerful. She’s living the dream and she’s worked hard to get to where she is now. She is living proof, through adversity you can rise above it all. You can live the life you want and that hard work truly pays off. This remarkable women is : Oprah Winfrey. Her name is well known and loved by many, but do you know her life story?  Today, I’d like to remind us all of our inner phenomenal Wo(man). While also touching upon Oprah Winfrey’s life, her story and how she too is a phenomenal woman.

Many of us have endured and faced some challenges and obstacles in our lives. Some more so than others. I have been through some of the darkest times in my life. I’ve experienced pain and hurt in the worst ways possible. I know I’m speaking around my words and not being specific about my experiences. But that’s for another post, for another day and time. What I will say is, my struggles have taught me a lot about myself. It gave me new perspective on life— what I wanted out of life and what kind of life I wanted to live. I’ve become a stronger and wiser woman since then. I also know that my past doesn’t dictate my future and who I am now. Life teaches us a lot of lessons even at the worst times in our lives. What we need to remember is that we alone hold the key to our future. Sometimes, I think we forget that we create our own life. However big or small or grand or simple, it’s all in our hands.  Oprah endured physical and emotion abuse, failures and setbacks and through it all she rose above it. She is living proof that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

I mentioned earlier that I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching…. Well, to be completely honest, I’ve been feeling well for lack of better words: insecure, unhappy and uninspired. Certain things have contributed to these feelings, and at times it’s been hard to work through them.  During these time, my faith even my heart has been tested. Sometimes, during times of struggles, not only is it challenge but a trying time. What I have learned is that it’s gonna be okay and at times life will send us messages that will test us. But these are the times where we truly see how strong we are as people. At least, that’s how I see it as.  I’m human and many of us will experience some bumps in the road from time to time. It’s never the greatest but that’s life. I know that I’m not alone, we all go through our share of ups and downs, it’s all part of the journey. I’ve learned that this too shall pass. I know these feeling won’t last forever. I’m grateful to God, and I know he is guiding me each and everyday. I keep on reminding myself of my purpose while trying to stay positive. Even though I’ve been feeling this way, I know who I am and what I’m all about. With constant help from my support system around me, my spirits have been lifted. In addition to that, all of you have brought happiness into my life.  It’s another reason for me to feel and be empowered, enlightened and inspired. Everything in life is a process, and we all work through it all in our own ways. This is all in the moment, and I know this is all temporary. It’s just another reason to remind us all, myself included that we are all phenomenal. No matter what anyone says or tells us, we’re all remarkable and beautiful both inside and out. This is a struggle for most of us. I too, struggle with this, but it’s a good daily reminder that we should always remember.

 

Here are some of the ways I’ve learned to cope and deal with what’s been troubling me. Maybe these can be useful for you if you ever experience these unsettling feelings.

  • Meditation
  • Reading books that will uplift your spirt, mind, and soul
  • Surround yourself with positive minded people
  • Yoga
  • Daily exercise
  • Screaming and letting it all out and letting it go
  • Speaking with your family, friends, peers the ones you trust , those who are in your circle. Talking and communicating is very therapeutic, a good for the soul
  • Singing, is actually a great form of release as well. {Fun fact, I’ve been singing since I was 5 year old}. Stay tuned, maybe I’ll give you a little preview one of these days
  • Being completely honest with yourself
  • Stay true and authentic always
  • Choose an uplifting and empowering affirmation/mantra something that will not only inspire you but others and repeat it. Make it a daily reminder for yourself and believe it. Know you are worth it
  • It may be easier said than done but even through it all continue to remain positive and optimistic
  • Know that this to shall pass and what you’re feeling is only temporary
  • Continue to smile, a smile can go a long way. Who knows, your smile can brighten someone else’s day

We all can rise above the challenges we face and live the life we want. At the age of 32, Oprah became the first African American on national Television in America and the youngest millionaire. How did she do this? She remained determined, worked hard and instead of staying she couldn’t she said she can, and so can you!  I just turned 32, I’m not a millionaire, but I have a million reasons to be happy, thankful and grateful! I’m so grateful for all of life’s blessings, and I know my work is far from being done. I have so much to look forward to. I’m not perfect but I’m okay with that. I’m living life how I want each and every day. I have many more dreams and goals I’d like to accomplish and I’m just getting started. I’m building my own story and having faith in the journey that lies ahead.  I’m a work in progress as we all are.

On a more positive note, after writing and sharing this all with you, and working through what’s been troubling me; I can honestly say that I’m in a better space. No one said life would ever be easy, even Oprah has said this because she’s gone through her share. Nothing ever happens overnight, but I’m trusting and believing that it’ll all work itself out in the long run. So, as I continue to tell myself not to let certain things get me down you shouldn’t either. We are all phenomenal, amazing human beings. We just have to remember to listen to that voice inside and continue to remind ourselves this from time to time.   

Oprah Winfrey Inspirational Life Story… Watch the video and listen to Oprah’s powerful story. Her life will amaze you and inspire you in more ways than one.

 

 

Here’s Oprah’s Tearful Speech at Power of Women : A powerful speech that will uplift you but may bring you to tears so keep a box of kleenex close by.

In life, we’ll face many challenges, go through struggles and jump through many hurdles some of which we may not understand or want. We just need to realize and know that its only temporary. We can work through it and overcome it. Sometimes we need daily reminders to let us all know, it’s gonna be ok, and that we’re doing a great job. No matter what anyone tells us, we are amazing in our own ways. We need to remember, we all have the power and will to live the life we want. We need to all believe in our true power, we need to believe that we are worth it. When we start to believe that, we can truly become what we want to be and what we are meant to be. This is something I will continue to tell myself and so should you.

 

I hope you all were able to take something from this post. I hope it encourages you to go out there and live out your dreams. My hope for this post is to continue to uplift, inspire and empower you all. I feel more at ease and my spirit is lifted. I know that everything takes time and it’s a process, but it’ll all be worth it in the end. Build your own story, begin your journey, enjoy it, respect it and believe in it. I promise you, it will all be worth it in the end.

We are all phenomenal Wo(man), we need to always remember this, celebrate it and believe it!

What is uplifting and empowering to you? 

As alway, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!