SFB: Faith+ Positivity+ The Little Things in Life

Posted on: September 10, 2018

 

 

Life can throw us a lot of curve balls and we all continue to fight battles each and every single day. For some of us, this can deter us from moving forward, where we feel less  motivated in doing just about everything. My advice to you all and I’ve always continued to say this—–NEVER GIVE UP. Trust me I know it is easier said than done, trust me I know this all too well and I get it. Sometimes we think simple fixes can make things better, but we mustn’t look for material things or other things to make things better. It’s the little things in life that should help us keep moving forward. It’s starts with this and for some of us we underestimate how powerful this can help us. We all experience various life challenges and through these battles and difficulties we must keep our faith, and believe in the power of prayer.  I know all too well, that with all of life challenges that we go through, it’s so easy to lose our faith and hope. Sometimes our faith comes in waves because we go through all these ups and downs in life which makes us wonder and question our faith and even God. We all want the answers, we all want immediate results. But unfortunately, life doesn’t work out that way. But that doesn’t mean that things can’t happen, but not as immediate as we would like or hope.

 

What we must always remember, it’s all about timing and in God’s time. God hasn’t forgotten us, he is with us and he hears our prayers and thoughts, we must never forget that.  I also hold God and my faith as the number one driving force in my life that has kept me going in all aspects of my life.  In addition to the support of my love, family and friends. They have been the people in my life, the reason why I’m motivated to keep going. Like all of us, I am human, and I can be the first to admit that I have lost my faith at times. But without fail God has shown me in more ways than one that he is with me. I have lived by this scripture from 2 Corinthians 5:7 —-  I will walk by faith even when I cannot see…. I truly believe there are signs everywhere and he is with us, guiding us and showing us even when we can’t see it he is. We must remember that. What I will leave you with is,  remain strong even when it’s tough. Stay positive, even when there are things leading you to think or act otherwise. Pray for peace, pray for hope, protection to keep that positivity and good energy and vibes flowing in your life. Be kind always. Spread love in everything you do. Lastly, keep pushing, keep going. Never lose hope, never give up and never stop believing.

 

Here are some of my words, psalms and bible scriptures that have continued to stay with me and help me throughout my life:

I will walk by faith, even when I cannot see… 2 Corinthians 5:7

Psalms 23

Psalms 91 for Protection

Psalms 37:4

Corinthians 13-4

Psalms 46:5

Proverbs 3:1-12

Luke 11:1-54

Whatever you believe in, keep that and hold onto to that. It will help you during all of life challenges. Stay inspired, empowered, motivated and always keep the faith. Stay positive!

 

 

 

 

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Shirt Dress: Zara (So versatile, can be worn as a dress or even a top).  |

Booties: Dolce Vita | Lipstick: Nars| Earrings: Aurate NYC |

Remember to always have faith, stay strong, keep the positive vibes flowing, never give, never lose hope and never ever stop believing.

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!


Have Patience and Have Faith

Posted on: August 28, 2018

Lately, I’ve been hearing about, reading and witnessing so many heartaches, deaths and just a lot of pain overall. Life currently hasn’t been easy, and I can see that we’ve all been affected by something in one way or another. But what I can say is that if you get up each and everyday, your trying at least. Sometimes we can be too hard or too critical of ourselves, but we are trying. Even though at times it seems like everything is crashing like a ton of bricks and we just can’t seem to bare it anymore. If I’ve learned anything thus far in my 33 years of life, it’s to NEVER GIVE UP.

A few days ago, I met a lovely woman who spoke to me about her struggles and difficulties that she’s experienced over this past year. She’s torn because she’s leaving her current home to relocate and live with her parents as she tries to recovery and win her fight to cancer. As we chatted for a bit, she was telling me how disappointed she was with herself because at her age she didn’t see this life for herself. She wasn’t too thrilled to move back home and live with her parents. Not that she wasn’t or isn’t happy to see her family, but thats not where she physically wants to be. She imagined her life looking different. She saw herself  married, with kids possibly, and both her and her spouse would be growing and building their lives together. But instead, life hit her hard. She was diagnosed with Cancer, and she’s been receiving Chemotherapy treatments this entire year. I definitely felt for her. Even though, there are various forms of Cancer out there, I’ve dealt with it personally in my family and with close friends. I currently have a friend whose fighting for her life right now with stage 4 cancer. Life is never easy. But I keep on hearing that God gives his strongest soldiers the toughest battles because he knows that they can and will grow and become even stronger from it. I still struggle with this statement. Because it’s something I’m still trying to understand and grasp every single day. When we hear about death, when we hear about life threatening illnesses, heartache– I ask God why did he have to take away our loved ones so soon? What is the lesson we need to learn through all this pain and turmoil. Our conversation continued as we both saw and realized we were wearing the same evil eye and hamsa macrame bracelets. Which symbolizes protection, safety and warding off evil spirits. It only goes to show how faith has been a strong presence in both our lives in all forms.

This has been a tough year to say the least for me. Some days have been harder than most, but what I can say is that I’m still alive through the grace of God, patience and my faith. I try and continue to remain strong and positive as best as I can. Even though it’s all definitely been tested time and time again. The woman I met, she said she’s learned a lot in this time as she heals and tries to fight her battle with Cancer. She said what this has taught her is to have faith but most importantly patience. That resonated with me a lot, because that’s what I’ve learned as well. Faith doesn’t make anything in life easy, but it makes it possible. We might not receive the answers or signs right away or when we want immediately, but we must continue to have faith and we must be patient. Even though we haven’t seen yet. We must walk by faith and not by sight.  Because with faith and patience anything is possible. I, too have had my share of battles and hardship like many of us.

In the latter half of 2017, I was diagnosed with Adenomyosis. It’s a rare condition that effect woman typically late in their childbearing years but can occur at any age. Sometimes there aren’t any visible signs of the condition. Many times it can go unnoticed for years. Having been diagnosed with this, my faith, my strength and patience has definitely been tested. It’s definitely taught me a lot about my own personal strength, my faith and patience.  At times I found myself lost, and just wondering , why…. It made me question a lot of things, including something that’s been very important to be which is my faith. I’ve always wanted to have a children, to have a family in general. This post has been hard for me to write, because I’ve had my share of pain and hardship with experiencing various miscarriages. The excitement to carry your own child and feel it growing inside you then have that taken away all of a sudden is beyond  any words I can express. So needless to say,  its been a difficult road to conceiving and also carrying to term, but it doesn’t mean that there isn’t hope that I won’t be able to. I haven’t lost hope which is what I’m essentially saying. I’ve weighed all the options, done my research and sought out various opinions from Medical professionals. I know many women struggle with infertility every single day. But if you read and do your research about the condition, seek out your options, and get the proper care it doesn’t mean that it isn’t possible. I just also found out that Gabrielle Union was also diagnosed with this condition as well. She’s struggled with infertility for years and many doctors couldn’t pinpoint what was wrong until now. But she has said that even having this condition, this will not stop her journey in trying to have her own children.  ( To learn more about Gabrielle Union, journey with Infertility click here). When the time is right and God blesses me or any other women with this condition, with a child,  I know that it’s not only a miracle but God’s will and his doings. Remember to do your research, know that with having this condition, if you do get pregnant, it’s perfectly safe to carry a child. Get all the facts and don’t be misinformed.  What I’ve learned about my condition, is that having a child can help me in my situation, but I leave it in Gods hands to heal me completely. Where I no longer have this tumor growing inside of me and blessed with a healthy, loving and happy family.

Living with Adenomyosis hasn’t been easy. It’s been a tough road so far, but I’m not going to let this beat me. I’m going to fight through this. I know God, my guardian Angels, family and friends have been supporting me with their love and prayers since day one. I believe in miracles so I’m going to continue to pray, have faith and have patience. This won’t beat me, and I know one day the blessings of a family, will come it’s just all in God’s hands. Going back to my conversation with the woman I met, the important and key words that came out of that conversation were to continue to: stay positive, have faith and have patience. No matter what life throws at us, we must continue to have faith, have patience and remain positive. I know it’s definitely easier said than done but trying is half the battle. When you try and when you believe your half way there.

 

I know with continued prayers, faith, and patience, I know God can create miracles. We may not understand it now, but I can only hope everything will fall into place and make sense eventually.  We just have to keep the faith and the positive vibes flowing.  Every situation is different and I know it can definitely be worse. So, I still continue to count my blessings and thank God every single day. Gratitude is everything. Something we need to always remember.

 

So if you follow me on Instagram (@SocialFashionistaBeauty) I’m sure you’ve noticed a lot of my post and stories related to faith, staying positive and being patient. Along with being kind and to never stop believing. Although I have strong passion for all things beauty, style and lifestyle, faith is a huge component in my life as well. So as I remain in my faith and keep my positive thoughts flowing I love sharing that positive energy and the Lord’s word with you all to carry you through your days as well. We all need any and all forms of resources for hope, faith and positivity so I’m happy to share and pass it along to all of you.

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Jumpsuit: A New Day  | Jewelry: Chloe and Isabel | Evil Eye and Hamsa Macrame Bracelets: Anthropologie | Clutch: Givenchy (Currently on SALE) |Shoes: Birkenstocks; Tahari (old) Similar  | Sunglasses: Karen Walker

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The strongest people aren’t those that show strength in front of us, but those that fight and win battles we know nothing about. We are all fighting a battle each and everyday. Even when the days can and seem so dim, and you feel like giving up , DON’T. Be kind, have faith, have patience, and never stop believing. Faith doesn’t make things easy, it makes them possible.

To all those fighting battles, experiencing tough times, hardships, heartaches, pain, and struggle remember to have faith and patience. God is with us all. Continue to pray, stay positive and never lose hope. Believe in miracles and fight for what you want and believe in.

 

You are all in my thoughts and prayers. As always, thanks for reading along, following and supporting my journey.


Practicing Gratitude in Style

Posted on: August 8, 2018

Start and end each day with a grateful, loving heart. Begin your days with positive thoughts. When you do, trust and believe all that good energy and good vibes that come your way. In my opinion, remaining calm and positive in any given situation, is the way we all should live life. It’s definitely easier said than done. But trying is half the battle, but we must learn to shake off the bad and seek the good. When you shift your negative thoughts, and remain positive in any given situation, you will see a shift in your mindset and overall perspective of life. Trust, believe and always have faith.  Practice gratitude daily and you will increase your energetic vibrational frequency. Focus on the positive, even when some days are harder than most. Set the tone, not just for your days but as a whole. Stand strong and always #hustleandheart. Gratitude is a powerful process of shifting your energy and bringing more of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have and you will attract more good things.  We’re all fighting battles that many of us don’t know about–so be kind, be grateful always, and above all never lose faith and hope. No matter what we all are facing, we still must be grateful and thankful for the blessings of each and everyday. Keep the good vibes flowing!

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Message from God: Just be You

Posted on: April 23, 2018

 

And out of nowhere, I hear God say to me, Just be you. Nothing else, I am in love with you, I am pleased with you. I felt overwhelmed by the realization that I am enough, just as I am…..

Sometimes, with the struggles of our daily lives and everything around us we get too “caught up” with trying to be something we aren’t and forget who we are along the way. The last couple of months, I have been struggling with so much. Trying to find the answers, trying to figure it all out. At times I felt like God and my faith abandoned me. I started to lose hope in a lot of things. I know we all have been lost, even seen a lot of dark times in our lives. Let me tell you, the struggle is real, and I mean that in all honesty. Life is never easy by no means. Life can be beautiful and challenging all at the same time. But, hey that’s life right?! Sometimes the strongest among us are the ones who smile through silent pain, cry behind closed doors, and fight battles we know nothing about. I know I let out a good cry here and there and that’s okay. Letting out a good cry here and there doesn’t make me weak, it makes me real and human. Even moreso open and honest with you all by telling you all this, but I like to keep it real and 100% with you always.

Sometimes, we need to take a breath and realize, we need to love ourselves wholeheartedly always.  At times, we can let society, the media, our circle of friends, colleagues, family whoever it is tell us what we need to be, who we should be and what we should be doing with our lives. No matter what anyone says, just be yourself. Don’t try to be something your not. Be authentically you. God created us to be unique individuals, and sometimes we need a reminder from time to time. We need to stop comparing ourselves to this person and that person and be comfortable with ourselves and who we are.

I know this is a constant struggle for all of us, myself included. Life isn’t always perfect. With social media ruling over us these days, there’s a constant need to strive for perfection. Just remember, looks can always be deceiving, and nothing is ever as perfect as it seems.  And that’s ok, don’t strive for perfection, try and work through your struggles, learn and grow from it. Add value to your life and purpose that is more fruitful beyond measure. It’s all about perception and what you believe is perfect and right for you. Just remember, you are beautiful, kind, loving, unique, intelligent, humble, and amazing just the way you are. Never forget that. I too, have to remind myself of this all the time, so trust me you’re not alone. I hope this will encourage and motivate us all to never lose sight of who we are and what is important. And if we do, it’s these little reminders and words of wisdom from the big man up above speaking to us always. God’s always on our side watching over us and guiding us along the way. Let’s never forget him, our faith and all he has to show and tell us. No one is you and that is your power.

 

I’ll end by saying, keep your faith. I know it may not seem like it now but listen theres a message in the word always.  This is my message to you today and always. Stay true to yourself, stay inspired, be empowered, have faith, never stop believing in yourself and never give up loves!!

 

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting the journey!


No Beauty Shines brighter than that of a Good Heart

Posted on: March 29, 2018

“A woman with a voice, is by definition a strong woman.” 

Take delight in the Lord and he shall give you the desires of your Heart. Psalm 37:4

 

I hope everyone is having a great week so far. This post I’m sharing today is about finding strength, trusting it, reflection and having a good heart. In life, we all go through things that many of us can’t explain or don’t even understand. Sometimes, things happen in our lives, that is so unexpected, heartbreaking and life changing that it effects us in so many different ways. I, myself have been going through a very painful time in my life. Something so painful I wouldn’t wish this kind of pain on anyone. They say that pain changes people. There are two types of pains, one that hurts you and the other that changes you. It can make a person trust less, overthink more and sometimes even shut people out. Pain can also be a motivator for finding strength.

During this time of reflection, heartache, soul searching and guidance through my faith. I’ve seen myself struggle through the pain. I see that pain has changed me in a way where I was at a point where I’ve doubted others and myself. I’ve seen how my pain has hurt me to the core. I’ve even been at a point where I’ve completely shut people out. Not that it was on purpose, not that I didn’t or haven’t valued them, their care or advice. But I couldn’t bare to have my pain and hurt drown in them too. When one experiences pain of this nature, the only natural and human reaction is to feel alone. Leaving you with much doubt –where you begin to question every little thing.

Please know this,  TRUST and BELIEVE if you’re going through any kind of pain or hurt you’re not alone. Even though it feels like you are, you aren’t. I tell myself this everyday, because I still struggle with this from time to time. I also know that it’s easier said than done. What I have learned is that we can’t never allow the pain or hurt to let us lose ourselves in the process. Repeat after me, I matter, I am important and I am enough. These are things I say to myself everyday, although it can be a struggle I still manage to say, believe and repeat it. But hey, trying is half the battle. Sure, I have my moments of sadness, and it’s perfectly normal. Let it out, it’s healthy. We all need a good cry here and there. If we don’t let it out, one of these days you may just explode with an overflow of emotions. But little by little, let it out. Let yourself feel through the pain and hurt. This isn’t something you can prepare yourself for, it’s also isn’t something you can just wake up the next day and just say ok I’m over it. It’s a process, an ebb and flow of ups and downs. Everyday is different. Some days will be good and some days will not be and that’s perfectly fine.

Reflection and Coping….

I reflect, I grieve and I have my ways of coping through it all. We all find ways to deal and cope with things.  I’ve truly appreciated my small inner circle and family for their support, guidance and love during this time. You find that during these times of struggle, you find out whose truly in your corner and by your side.  As far as my time, I try and use my time in a productive way. Whether its keeping myself occupied with work, family, friends or other activities that I enjoy. For instance, I have a passion and love for singing, I have since gotten back into singing, joined a choir and have done a few open mic nights. I found that it has been a way of release and a means to keep my mind off of the pain for the moment in time. I’ve also had the honor and pleasure to guest speak at various business events. Although I’m going through this very painful and tough time in my life, I’d still like to be an advocate and use my voice as a means for positive change and for me its a way to help others and give back, which is my mission and life’s purpose. It truly warms my heart to be able to inspire and empower men and women through this platform. To provide a sense of hope, encouragement and positivity through the lenses of style, beauty, lifestyle as well as real life situations. I hope that my voice, experiences, businesses and words of wisdom provide a sense comfort and strength to all. As well as be a means for positive change not just for ourselves but as a whole.

Let your coping mechanisms be positive and constructive. Don’t let them be ways where it will lead you further down the rabbit whole. If you need to, seek advice from family, your inner circle or even professional help, do so.  Releasing the pain and hurt helps, even if it’s only in the moment it’s conducive to the process. If you can write about it, writing can be very cathartic and helpful too. Let it all out, even if you find yourself getting emotional, LET IT OUT. And remember this is your pain, you’re the one going through this. No matter what advice or what anyone says to you, although the intentions may be for your benefit, this is your process. You handle and you go through the motions how you see fit for yourself. Also, remember to love yourself through it all. Be kind, be gentle to yourself. You’re going through a lot, so don’t be too hard on yourself especially if your trying. Love yourself first and foremost. Take care of you.

Above all, trust and believe that you have the strength, it’s within you.  That voice inside you, that is your inner strength, listen to it. Let it guide and help you through the pain. Sometimes in life, we can’t explain why things happen the way they do. No matter how painful it may be. I can confidently say that I know I’m a good woman, with a good heart and only the purest intentions. But what I have also learned that having a good heart can also cause a tremendous amount of pain and hurt. One thing that I know for sure, I may be going through a tough time now. BUT, this will never stop me from being the woman that I am. No matter how much love and care you have in your heart and even with your good intentions, sometimes not everyone is equipped to handle it, or even grow with you. That’s the tough part, but hey not everyone has the capacity to love the way you love, realize it or see the good, even if it’s starring them right in the face. Sometimes you may be too much goodness and heart that others don’t have the capacity to hold on to it, cherish it and know how to take care of it. I’m content in knowing not to expect a lot in return. But also knowing what I deserve. Even though I know that what I have already matters and I can see the growth potential in all aspects. Not to say you shouldn’t have any expectation but having less expectations saves you from an immense amount of pain. If that makes any sense at all.

Food for thought….

This is what I do know. Here’s the thing about people with good hearts. They give you excuses when you don’t explain yourself. They accept apologies you don’t give. They see the best in you when you don’t need them to. At your worst, they lift you up, even if it means putting their priorities aside. The word “busy” does not exist in their dictionary or vocabulary. They make time, even when you don’t. And you wonder why they’re the most sensitive people. You wonder why they’re the most caring people. You wonder why their existence is not so essential to your well-being. It’s because they don’t make you work hard for the attention they give you. They accept the love they think they’ve earned and you accepted the love you think you’re entitled to. Let me tell you something. Fear the day when a good heart gives up on you. Our skies don’t become grey out of no where. Our sunshine does not allow the darkness to take over for no reason. A heart does not turn cold unless it’s been treated with coldness for awhile. That’s truth and honesty in a nutshell. That’s not bitterness, that true, honest words from someone with a good heart. We don’t just love, we love hard, unconditionally, wholeheartedly and immensely. Find the strength within you to know, no matter what pain can do to you never lose sight of your good heart and pure intentions. Never let pain make you bitter. Turn pain into strength. The road of pain and hurt isn’t easy by no means. Always remember your good heart, you’re a good person and you have the power to be strong, it’s always been inside of you. Never lose sight of your strength and your good heart.

Breathe, and let it go….

Life throws us curve balls, things we can’t explain. They are either there to test us or to strengthen us or even both. I’ve been told that God gives his strongest souls the most challenging feats in life because he knows they can handle it and they will prevail. This hasn’t been easy by no means. But with the grace of God and my faith, I still haven’t lost hope. Turn to your faith and let that be your strength and let that empower you through this time.

Breathe, and let it go. If it’s meant to be it will find it’s way. I firmly believe that. Maybe we’re all experiencing some form of pain for a reason. Sometimes we have to struggle a little to find the deeper meaning behind the message. If you believe in something so much, then keep your faith and find strength through it. When there’s a will there’s a way.  If you’re going through any pain or hurt, remember you’re not alone. I’m here for you. It’s never easy, I’m still going through it. We can remind ourselves of our strengths, our faith and our good hearts. Through it all, we can empower ourselves to find hope, light and positivity through our time of struggle.

 

Remember to never lose faith, never lose hope, never stop believing and never give up! You’re a good soul, a dope soul with a good and pure heart of gold. Never forget that!

 

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting the journey!


SFB Motivational Mondays: Quotes, Mantras and Songs for Inspiration, motivation and more.

Posted on: August 15, 2017

Hi Loves!

Happy Monday! Can you believe it’s August already??!! How did that happen, the months are just flying by. I know it’s been some time since you last heard from me. I took some time for myself, to re-group, re-center and re-evaluate a few things for the blog and just with myself. I can’t stress to you all enough how important self-care is, I’ll be talking about self-care in a separate post. But it’s important to always take care of yourself in all facets. Whether it be physically, emotionally, mentally, whatever the case is, do you and be good to yourself. Being good to yourself and give yourself and your body the love and care it needs. It’s not only important but it good for your overall health and of course your soul as well. Just something to think about.

 

Anyway, here are a few quotes, mantras and songs that keep me going throughout my days. If ever your feeling down, lost, undetermined, unfocused, unmotivated find meaningful quotes, music or even mantras that will help you through your days. Working out can be a great source of release as well. Great stress reliever as well as a mind clearer. Plus, it gets those endorphins going and those happy, positive vibe radiate out of you. This can also do wonders for you as well. A breath of fresh air and getting outside is a great thing to do for yourself. It clears the mind, and helps you re-center your thoughts.

These quotes, mantras and songs have done wonders for me and I hope they can do the same for you. They help me get through those tough days, challenges and any bumps I may be facing at the time. They help me stay positive, keep focus on what’s important, motivate me, inspire and keep me staying determined always. For me, quotes, music and certain mantras have helped me get through a lot of my darker times and moments in my life. I also lean on the support of my amazing, loving husband, family and friends. Having a strong support system is also crucial to help you get through those tough times. But know you are never alone, and we all go through it in our lives. Just remember we will all get through any challenges, obstacles, struggles, bumps, hurdles that life throws at us. Another way to help you get you thru your days is always staying positive and optimistic. I can’t stress this enough. When you shift your mindset, and just give out and spread only positive thoughts and vibes it can do wonders on your overall attitude on life and any challenges you may be facing. I know this isn’t always easy at times, we are human and we can falter sometimes and have moments of doubt and uncertainty within ourselves. But we must try and create and believe in ourselves and the positive energy we possess. We all have it in us, we just need to harness it, spread it and believe in it. Anything is possible, just remember that.

Lastly, another great way to stay positive and help you through anything is the power of prayer. Turning to God or your choice of worship can help keep the momentum and positivity going for yourself. Don’t underestimate the power of prayer, God is always listening and watching. He will always send a sign and listen to our prayers. God is good, I truly believe that.

Here are my favorite quotes, mantras and songs that keep me going: 

 

I hope this help you all. Remember you are not alone. We can all share and learn from one another. Please share your ways to keep yourself motivated, inspired, empowered and determined. I love hearing from you all and I love how we can inspire and empower one another.

As always thanks for reading, following along and supporting the journey!


A Marriage Prayer

Posted on: July 5, 2017

 

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.
11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
-1 Corinthians 13:4-13 NIV

This past weekend my husband and I attended the wedding of our cousins and celebrated their union and love. It got me thinking and I wanted to write down my thoughts and shed some light on marriage, love, and everything in between. While sitting through the ceremony seeing my beautiful cousin marry her best friend it got me thinking how love is such a beautiful and unique thing.

Every love story is unique and beautiful and I may be bias but I think are is my favorite. While sitting and listening to the priest and the readings chosen for their special day it got me thinking…. I started to think about my husband, Mark and our marriage. For some of you who don’t know, Mark and I have been together now for 9 years and married for 4 years. Our relationship has seen it’s share of ups and downs like everyone does. If anyone ever tells you their marriage is perfect, they are lying and not being true to themselves. Sometimes you need to go through some tough times to realize the good in your relationship, but I say this very lightly and I mean only sometimes.

Often times, life will teach you a lot of things. It will also throw you some curve balls that will test you and your marriage. It’s those test, obstacles and challenges that will definitely make you see what’s worth it. Even through all the trials and tribulations, you have to think about what’s truly important to you and how you and your partner got here. Sometimes these bumps in the road require both of you to reevaluate, regroup and re-center. Through it all, your marriage and relationship will stand the test of time, but in the end, always remember the why. Why did you get marriage? Why are you with your partner?  Think back to the love you both share and tell yourself, what matters most to you and your partner.  Is love still there?  Is this still worth it?   What I’m essentially getting at is that while witnessing the union between our cousins it made me think about my marriage and the why. Even after 4 years of marriage and 9 years together my why is still the same for the both of us. The trials and tribulations, and the part in your vows, “For Better and for worse…” that’s the part when life sends you those obstacles to teach you lessons and to make you stronger, not just as individuals but united as one.   Someone once told me, when you love hard you fight even harder. Maybe this is the case for us and many other couples. But I believe that life teaches us a lot of lessons for a reason. Maybe to test our strength, to test our marriage and us as a whole. But, I’m a firm believer that it will definitely make you stronger in the long run.

Both my husband and I  have said and admitted after that we both said things we didn’t mean, because of anger, in the end we can’t imagine our lives without each of us in it. So, to all the couples out there, remember marriage and any relationship requires work, time, loyalty, communication and being completely open and honest with one another. When gets you down, remember to always talk everything out until your all talked out. Communication and healthy communication is the root to everything.  Face each problem head on. Make each other remember the why, why you two are in this situation and why you got married in the first place. It’s ok to agree to disagree, but know that every relationship is always about compromise. No one is ever always right.There is never “I” in a WE, once you say “I do,” you two are partners in marriage and partners in life. No matter what, you two make the decisions together. Remain a united front always, no matter what.

To our cousins and all the couples out there , I wish you all the very best. May your lives be filled with much love, happiness, laughter and lots of blessings. Know that you are never alone. Know that every relationship goes through their share of ups and downs. Know that every argument is worth fighting for no matter what. Always remember the why and always remember to love and cherish one another.

I’ll leave you with this prayer that has stayed with us since day one of our new chapter as husband and wife.

A Marriage Prayer

Lord, help us to remember when we first met and the strong love that grew between us.

To work that love into practical things so nothing can divide us.

We ask for words both kind and loving, and for hearts always ready to ask forgiveness as well as to forgive.

Dear Lord, we put our marriage into your hands. Amen

Love is truly a beautiful and unique things, with so many twist and turns. Love is something we should always cherish and hold close to our heart. <3 But hey, it’s all part of this crazy thing called life.

As always, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!

 


Phenomenal Women

Posted on: June 21, 2017

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
– Maya Angelou

{“Phenomenal woman”  Angelou speaks as a self-confident woman, she wants to show the world what makes her beautiful and she expresses it in a various ways….. A phenomenal woman can be any shape or size. Creed, religion, age, sexual orientation, the family she was born into, or the colour of her skin do not matter. She is strong yet weak; she struggles with her own identity from time to time, but she understands that is all part of who she is}. 

The poem that I shared with you above is by the famous Maya Angelou. Her words speak so many truths and volumes. She’s a true inspiration to us all in more ways than one. She too, endured her own struggles, but she prevailed and persevered. I, thank her for her words, her works and being the woman that she was and stood for.  She continues to be a powerful voice to many even though she is no longer with us.

Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching, trying to work through my feelings of uncertainty and a whirl of emotions. I’d like to consider myself a strong, independent, confident woman, but at times I can’t say that I am those things. Have you ever felt this way? Or dealt with feelings like these? If so, how did you cope or deal with what you were feeling?  I’m human, and I’m sure some if not all of you all can relate. I’ve read a lot of books that have uplifted my spirits and have helped me get me back to my center. I’m blessed to have people in my life, who have helped me through my struggles. Their advice and words of encouragement have enlightened and strengthened my spirit. I’m grateful and thankful for them. They have helped me through some of the hardest times in life in my life. Just to warn you, this may be a long post, but it’s definitely worth the read.

Recently, I watched a video and read an article on someone who I’ve admired. Her inspirational and powerful life story spoke to me in a way, that brought me to tears.  I wanted to take this time to write and share this with you. In the beginning of 2017, I spoke about being more open with you. I’m exploring my openness with you all today. Little by little you will learn more about me and who I am over time.

Today, I’d like to talk to you about a woman who has a powerful and positive voice. Someone who is not only inspirational but empowering.  She has endured much pain and hardship throughout her life. Which many of us can relate to in some way shape or form. Her story is heartbreaking, uplifting and powerful. She’s living the dream and she’s worked hard to get to where she is now. She is living proof, through adversity you can rise above it all. You can live the life you want and that hard work truly pays off. This remarkable women is : Oprah Winfrey. Her name is well known and loved by many, but do you know her life story?  Today, I’d like to remind us all of our inner phenomenal Wo(man). While also touching upon Oprah Winfrey’s life, her story and how she too is a phenomenal woman.

Many of us have endured and faced some challenges and obstacles in our lives. Some more so than others. I have been through some of the darkest times in my life. I’ve experienced pain and hurt in the worst ways possible. I know I’m speaking around my words and not being specific about my experiences. But that’s for another post, for another day and time. What I will say is, my struggles have taught me a lot about myself. It gave me new perspective on life— what I wanted out of life and what kind of life I wanted to live. I’ve become a stronger and wiser woman since then. I also know that my past doesn’t dictate my future and who I am now. Life teaches us a lot of lessons even at the worst times in our lives. What we need to remember is that we alone hold the key to our future. Sometimes, I think we forget that we create our own life. However big or small or grand or simple, it’s all in our hands.  Oprah endured physical and emotion abuse, failures and setbacks and through it all she rose above it. She is living proof that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

I mentioned earlier that I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching…. Well, to be completely honest, I’ve been feeling well for lack of better words: insecure, unhappy and uninspired. Certain things have contributed to these feelings, and at times it’s been hard to work through them.  During these time, my faith even my heart has been tested. Sometimes, during times of struggles, not only is it challenge but a trying time. What I have learned is that it’s gonna be okay and at times life will send us messages that will test us. But these are the times where we truly see how strong we are as people. At least, that’s how I see it as.  I’m human and many of us will experience some bumps in the road from time to time. It’s never the greatest but that’s life. I know that I’m not alone, we all go through our share of ups and downs, it’s all part of the journey. I’ve learned that this too shall pass. I know these feeling won’t last forever. I’m grateful to God, and I know he is guiding me each and everyday. I keep on reminding myself of my purpose while trying to stay positive. Even though I’ve been feeling this way, I know who I am and what I’m all about. With constant help from my support system around me, my spirits have been lifted. In addition to that, all of you have brought happiness into my life.  It’s another reason for me to feel and be empowered, enlightened and inspired. Everything in life is a process, and we all work through it all in our own ways. This is all in the moment, and I know this is all temporary. It’s just another reason to remind us all, myself included that we are all phenomenal. No matter what anyone says or tells us, we’re all remarkable and beautiful both inside and out. This is a struggle for most of us. I too, struggle with this, but it’s a good daily reminder that we should always remember.

 

Here are some of the ways I’ve learned to cope and deal with what’s been troubling me. Maybe these can be useful for you if you ever experience these unsettling feelings.

  • Meditation
  • Reading books that will uplift your spirt, mind, and soul
  • Surround yourself with positive minded people
  • Yoga
  • Daily exercise
  • Screaming and letting it all out and letting it go
  • Speaking with your family, friends, peers the ones you trust , those who are in your circle. Talking and communicating is very therapeutic, a good for the soul
  • Singing, is actually a great form of release as well. {Fun fact, I’ve been singing since I was 5 year old}. Stay tuned, maybe I’ll give you a little preview one of these days
  • Being completely honest with yourself
  • Stay true and authentic always
  • Choose an uplifting and empowering affirmation/mantra something that will not only inspire you but others and repeat it. Make it a daily reminder for yourself and believe it. Know you are worth it
  • It may be easier said than done but even through it all continue to remain positive and optimistic
  • Know that this to shall pass and what you’re feeling is only temporary
  • Continue to smile, a smile can go a long way. Who knows, your smile can brighten someone else’s day

We all can rise above the challenges we face and live the life we want. At the age of 32, Oprah became the first African American on national Television in America and the youngest millionaire. How did she do this? She remained determined, worked hard and instead of staying she couldn’t she said she can, and so can you!  I just turned 32, I’m not a millionaire, but I have a million reasons to be happy, thankful and grateful! I’m so grateful for all of life’s blessings, and I know my work is far from being done. I have so much to look forward to. I’m not perfect but I’m okay with that. I’m living life how I want each and every day. I have many more dreams and goals I’d like to accomplish and I’m just getting started. I’m building my own story and having faith in the journey that lies ahead.  I’m a work in progress as we all are.

On a more positive note, after writing and sharing this all with you, and working through what’s been troubling me; I can honestly say that I’m in a better space. No one said life would ever be easy, even Oprah has said this because she’s gone through her share. Nothing ever happens overnight, but I’m trusting and believing that it’ll all work itself out in the long run. So, as I continue to tell myself not to let certain things get me down you shouldn’t either. We are all phenomenal, amazing human beings. We just have to remember to listen to that voice inside and continue to remind ourselves this from time to time.   

Oprah Winfrey Inspirational Life Story… Watch the video and listen to Oprah’s powerful story. Her life will amaze you and inspire you in more ways than one.

 

 

Here’s Oprah’s Tearful Speech at Power of Women : A powerful speech that will uplift you but may bring you to tears so keep a box of kleenex close by.

In life, we’ll face many challenges, go through struggles and jump through many hurdles some of which we may not understand or want. We just need to realize and know that its only temporary. We can work through it and overcome it. Sometimes we need daily reminders to let us all know, it’s gonna be ok, and that we’re doing a great job. No matter what anyone tells us, we are amazing in our own ways. We need to remember, we all have the power and will to live the life we want. We need to all believe in our true power, we need to believe that we are worth it. When we start to believe that, we can truly become what we want to be and what we are meant to be. This is something I will continue to tell myself and so should you.

 

I hope you all were able to take something from this post. I hope it encourages you to go out there and live out your dreams. My hope for this post is to continue to uplift, inspire and empower you all. I feel more at ease and my spirit is lifted. I know that everything takes time and it’s a process, but it’ll all be worth it in the end. Build your own story, begin your journey, enjoy it, respect it and believe in it. I promise you, it will all be worth it in the end.

We are all phenomenal Wo(man), we need to always remember this, celebrate it and believe it!

What is uplifting and empowering to you? 

As alway, thanks for reading, following along and supporting my journey!