This post is long overdue, I’ve been wanting to share this with you all for quite sometime now. It’s something that is so obvious and simple but it’s so important in any relationship- date night! No matter if you just started a new relationship, have been together for many years, married, married with kids, date night is an essential part in any romantic relationship. In any relationship, whether it’s with family or friends, you have to nurture it, cherish it and this will help the relationship grow. Time is a very important thing, especially quality time, listening, talking and enjoying life — all it has to offer together. Let’s face it, I know we can all admit that at times, it’s easy for us to get caught up in our daily lives, and dates become few and far between-something you too often say, it’ll happen when you have time, or money. Life can be challenging and demanding at times especially if you and your partner have jobs that require more time than the norm or if you’re full time parents. Now I’m not saying your dates have to be over the top or super extravagant (although a little thought to the evenings or even daytime outing would be nice) but it’s something that should be incorporated into your relationship
My husband and I started having date night back when we started dating almost 9 years ago. It’s something we started that helped strengthened the bond between us. But I have to be honest, due to our demanding schedules it’s been hard lately to keep up the tradition. Although, Friday’s are designated for Date night, it hasn’t been as frequent as we would like. But I’m hoping we can continue doing date night again very soon! At this point, one of us need to just drop everything and say, let’s go out and enjoying the day or evening and our time. Sometimes, maybe a little spur of the moment and impromptu outing might be something you and your partner need to break the ice.
A Here are reason’s why date night is important:
Date nights are what keep a relationship strong and lasting. Why? During that time, you both can reconnect, engage with one another without being distracted by a phone call, a work email, or even social media. It breaks up the monotony— we can all love our jobs, lifestyles, family and friends but it’s humanly possible to get stuck in a rut. It’s normal, but that’s why date nights are essential. Making time for you and your partner can spice things up in more ways than you think. Sometimes we can get caught up with our crazy daily lives that we forget our partners are there as a support system, to helps through our struggles and see the bigger picture. Carving out time for date night is the perfect solution and way to communicate on another level, instead of talking about the usual day to day. Trust me, your not alone we all fall victim to this from time to time. But it’s up to us to make more of an effort and set aside the time to rekindle, reconnect, relax and enjoy the time together. Cherish it, because this will continue to strengthen the bond you two share.
Get to know your partner on a deeper level– I know what your thinking, ” I thought I knew everything there is to know about you…” Whether you’ve been married for 25 years or have been in a long term relationship with your partner you may think there isn’t much more you need to know or learn about one another. I’ll tell you this, my husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now and dating for almost 9 years and we’ve changed a bit over the years. Not in a bad way, but we’ve grown a lot since we first met and dated, especially in our marriage. No matter what relationship your in and no matter for how long, remember this, a relationship is a partnership. In a partnership, we have to remember we always want to do better and be better. We all want to grow and evolve what’s better than growing not just as individuals but in your marriage/relationship as well. Life always has some kind of lesson for us to learn, the same rules apply in a marriage. So whether you both curl up together by the fire at home or even over a dinner made together at home or out take the time to connect and communicate on a deeper level. It will not only make you grow as individuals but as a couple too. Try it, and see the strength of your bond grow closer.
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Also studies have shown that couples who had a new baby but had a weekly date night were half as likely for their marriage quality to decline. Couples who had ‘couples time’ weekly, were more likely to have higher quality relationships and lower divorce rates than those who didn’t. They found that weekly date nights increase communication about important things and remove everyday distractions. Date nights increase novelty so that couples don’t take one another for granted and you both have a chance to do fun, stimulating activities. Having a date night helps spouses to reclaim both their individual identity and their identity as a couple. Much of the time they are too busy being a daughter, son, boss, worker, mom, dad and friend to remember to focus on who they want to be as people and as a couple.
If you’re constantly on the go with your demanding schedule and job you and your partner are well over due for a date night. For most of us who are in the hustle and bustle, on the daily grind and going 110% if not more always, then date night is the perfect way to force you to relax and unwind. What better way then to do it with someone you love and feel 100% comfortable with. When you aren’t distracted the stresses of your job and what have you, having that time away can put you in a refreshed and calm state. So whatever was stressing you before won’t be so hard to tackle, because you took time to hit the refresh, reset and regroup button and you talked about it together. You both came together to make the time for some good old quality time and R&R with one another. Something we all need from time to time. Try it and see how you handle what life is handing to you with a renewed sense of calmness and mindset. We all need this time, so cherish it, be mindful of it, and use it wisely.
Lastly, you remember your Why… This is so very true for all relationships. You think, why did we begin this crazy ride through the journey of life together! What brought us here? There’s nothing more refreshing or comforting than to have those moments thinking “We’re in this together.” To remind you and your partner why you both are working so hard to keep this relationship together, continue to be a solid team, why it’s so important to you both and why you want to continue this together. This couldn’t be more true, especially if your going through a tough time or working through something- moments like these will only provide a sense of clarity and put you at ease. Something you can’t and won’t be able to get if you’re going through it alone or just going through the motions. Now I’m not saying that the other moments you and your partner share aren’t significant. But, what I am saying is that taking the time and making the effort will not only strengthen your relationship, it will help you both grow even closer as a stronger unified couple not only in life but in marriage. After all, as the saying goes– for better or for worse, in sickness and in health and for as long as you both shall live.
Life will always have some kind of lesson or test that will challenge you and your partner. It is those test that will strengthen you not only as individuals but as a couple in the long run.
These are just my own thoughts and what has worked for my husband and I over the years. What I can tell you is that we all fall victim to neglecting time and not making enough of an effort. We all can get bogged down and distracted by the day to day. But I’m just pointing out ways to reinforce that bond and ways to strengthen it as a whole. Trust and believe you are all never alone, everyone goes through it. But it’s up to you and your partner to make the conscious effort to try. Remember, relationships are always about compromise it’s never a one way street, it takes two for anything to happen. I hope this post helped you in some way shape or form. and I hope you’ve gained some reassurance in your relationships and I hope you all will make efforts to building a strong, loving and lasting relationships with your partner. Try it out and see what happens.
I hope you all found this helpful and useful. I’d love to hear from you , please do share your thoughts below or even write to me. I love hearing your thoughts about this topic or any other topic, we can all help each other out. Let me know what other topics you ‘d like me to write about and share with you. I’m always happy to share my experiences and knowledge with you.
As always, thank you for reading, following along and supporting my journey!